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writes:How do I know if I really love him? I thought I knew even though I've been in love before and knew it didn't feel anything like last time. Figured it was just different than before. And how do I know he loves me? He tells me he does but sometimes I wonder if he just says it because he thinks thats what I expect or what I want. I've always been scared to trust in case I get hurt.We've been together nearly two years and have a six month old daughter. I'd never been in a relationship before and I don't think he'd ever had anything serious before either. He's 24, I'm 22. We don't argue, it isn't healthy. When we're mad at each other we just ignore each other. If I try to talk to him, he goes into denial. I'm so confused and sometimes feel like running but I wouldn't, I have responsibilities and I wouldn't want to jeopardise my daughter in any way. I love her so much...Please help... Reply to this Question
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reader, Waiting for an angel  +, writes (22 June 2010):
I dont think you can force someone to love you and vice - versa but i know that by spending time w/ someone , and doing things together , have fun such feelings can happen. If you loved him once at least in a romantic way im sure you can love him again, but dont try to force yourself . Think hard about what it is you like about him & the things you dont, something caught your attention in the beginning unless you got w/ him so you wouldnt be alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI love him and care about him in the way I would a really close friend, I think but as I've never really had a really close friend I'm not sure about that either. I know when I met him, I never had that spark, that wave of over whelming emotions, which I have had for other men. It was just that he liked me, he wanted to be with me and then he told me that he loved me - no one had ever cared for me in that way before and I really needed that feeling of being loved after coming out of a long period of clinical depression. I wasn't using him, I really do genuinely care about him but do I love him, real romantic physical, heart beating love, I'm not so sure that I do, much as I want to. There's no real way to force myself to feel like that about him, is there? I don't know what to do anymore. I just don't want my baby getting hurt and I don't want my boyfriend getting hurt either..
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reader, Waiting for an angel +, writes (19 June 2010):
You should just know if you love him, if you think of him and miss him all that basic things you know. Its hard when theres a baby involved, someOne once told me we always go back to the person we had a baby with , idk if its true im having my baby in a few days. Try to save your relationship if theres love left and always fight for what you want. Goodluck:)
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