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*rincessMe
writes:Hey friends, so I need advice. I'm a female, in college, and I met this pair of twins - we'll call them "A" and "B". Both of them are super nice, and we started talking and all 3 of us just clicked immediately. A is super outgoing, and so he tends to initiate friendships for the two of them. B is quieter and more shy, although he comes out of his shell once he gets to know you. Here's the problem: I have a huge crush on B. However, I get the distinct feeling that A likes me. I'm normally very perceptive and I have always been able to tell when someone likes me, so I doubt I'm wrong. I try not to show any favoritism to A, because I don't want to lead him on. But since meson is so quiet and A is so outgoing, I tend to communicate more with A through text and Facebook and such. I really love the friendship that the 3 of us have, and I don't want to mess anything up. As much as I like B, I would rather nothing happen than for either of them to get hurt. And I know that because they are so close, B would never date me if A didn't want him to. I don't know how to handle this. HELP!
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reader, PrincessMe +, writes (5 May 2015):
PrincessMe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, you both are a lot of help. I've decided to take a mixture of y'alls advice...
I'm choosing not to hang out/talk to A by ourselves. I've been making it really clear when I contact them that I want to hang out with them both. I really like them both as friends and I don't want to mess anything up, and I definitely don't want to cause any animosity between the two of them. We're all going home for the summer in a couple of weeks, so hopefully that will help things cool down with A. I'm initiating more stuff with B now, especially via text because he communicates better like that. Hopefully by slowing things down, it'll give him a chance to share how he feels (if he has any feelings). If not, it could at least help us get a stronger foundation as a group of 3 friends.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (25 April 2015):
 Try to spend more time with B and ignore A for a bit. You'll soon know if B reciprocates your feelings. By spending more time with A, you are giving B the impression that you prefer A. By spending more time with B, you are giving B the opportunity to come out of his shell and hopefully tell you what he feels. Give more time and attention to the guy you really want to be with. Forget A and focus on B.
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