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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating this girl for almost four years, we love each other and have been through alot together, divorced parents, long distance, the works. Last october we had an incident, she cheated on me (kissed a guy at the club) then proceeded to hang out with this guy. She told me she needed time to think aka she is going to pick between me and him, well they had sex, she broke up with me, i was devastated, a couple of weeks later she says i'm the one she wants blahblahblah. Fast forward to march i started hanging with this girl from work, i start to like her, then i break up with my gf because i felt our lives were going in different directions (not because i want the other girl) then i have sex with this new girl, realize it sucked and it wasnt what i wanted.I want my gf back.She took me back, but is wary of me because i had sex with this girl, then tried to work things out.....now here is my situation. She is a horse girl, she was taking care of her horse where she met a convict, a convicted criminal who has been assigned to clean the barn along side other inmates. She told me she had met this dude and mentioned that she thinks he is attractive, didnt think much of it until I saw a bunch of recent searches on her google saying:"i like a convict what do i do?' "can i date and ex-con?" "he has called me twice what do i do?" He apparently phoned her from jail!! Then i confronted her about it, she first denied it, then she said she needed to some time to figure out her feeling for me, she went on to reassure me that its not between me and this guy and that she loves me very much and that she doesnt like him, deja vu right? The guy in jail gets out tomorrow and i asked if she is going to hang with him and she said she didnt know yet.Every time i bring this guy up she keeps reminding me i had sex with another girl. so my question is: can i trust her? is she going to screw me over again? is she actually telling the truth? what do i do? any insight would be awesome. i would also like to mention that as soon as she met this guy our sex life came to a halt despite me finding porn on her comp.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): NO you can't trust her because your relationship has been over since the first time she did that and the first time you did that.
OP I'm with my girl 7 years now, I have never once had to think twice about my feelings for her. I never once doubted them and not once has any pther person made me question those feelings.
This keeps happening with your woman OP. As soon as she meets a guy she likes suddenly she doesn't know whether she loves anymore. Can you really not see what that means?
OP ups and downs are one thing, but she doesn't love you enough to only be with you, she's still on the market for another guy.
She's only with you until she finds someone else. She is still dating OP, and she is dating this con.
How in the world is that okay by you? And how is it that you think that's okay?
OP your relationship has been over since October and this is the final nail on the coffin.
I've seen this type of thing before, it's a combination of her being comfortable having you, not wanting to be alone but also not wanting to be with you, so her plan is to find a guy while she's still with you so she doesn't go without a man in between.
I mean shit OP, she doesn't know whether she's going to meet up with him? That means yes she is if he asks her to.
OP your girl is single in her mind, you're just there so she doesn't feel lonely while she dates, she's very much on the market for a new guy and this guy may well be the guy she chooses to leave you for. If not then it'll be the next guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): I think you know the answer she reminds you, that you had sex with someone else? But she cheated on you and picked the other guy over you. You say she took you back I think you took her back.
She sounds selfish I don't want to say it but I think she's not going to change find a decent girl who can give her whole self to you not when it's convinent for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): i know how you feel man. my ex screwed me over horribly. she went back to her ex. i found she had sex with him dening it until i was fed up. she ended up going back to him she lied many times. if shes done it once she will do it again as you can tell. shes done the research shes put the time in she will cheat. she justifies herself with your mistake with the other girl. sit her down lay the cards on the table tell her your true feelings. hope things work out man good luck
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