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writes:I ve bin dating the same guy since high skool....am working and done with college now..so we've bin dating for a long time(7yrs)although a long distance relationship..I met some guy about a year ago and we have bin very very good friend...we became best of friends..but now we have strong feeling for each other..but i cant break up with my man cos he hasnt hurt me in anyway.I feel like am in love with two people and i cant do without both of them...my best friend is also miles away from me..i dont wanna loose either of them...but am getting alot of pressure from my best friend...what do i do?? how do i pick...???who do pick??
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reader, kelie  +, writes (9 May 2008):
well what yo should do frist is think about who you have known longer. i mean friends are for ever and boyfriends come and go. so there will alays be more. But NEVR let a lad tell you to choose between your mates nd him cos its not fair on you, if he really loved you then he wouldnt do anything to hurt you. sit down with the lad and alk try and sort it out if it dosnt work then tell him that things are not working out and you should start seeing other people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): u need to pick who do u like better i know it hard it happen to me i had to pick the boy in my class or the boy who lived next to me i pick none i had to wate a little wile to see who i like better i picked the boy in my class he was nicer, funnyer, cuter, and smarter the other would pick on my friends rhat i didnt like pick who is best for u and you your frineds
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): Hello,Well i have kind of stuck in the same place lol.I have a boyfriend and have been dating on and off for about 2years, but i have feelings for my best mate and he also had feelings for me, im torn between both of them, because i love my boyfriend, but i then have feelings for my best mate.I wouldnt want to be with him though, as it would jepordise the friendship we have, but when me and My best mate are alone we flirt SO BAD! and i feel guilty, .. so if i were you i would stick with the Boyfriend :)!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks alot u guys......well the funny thing..am not to certain at this point who i care about more....its so confusing...i guess its cos sometimes my boy friends cud be annoying and my best friend id this really sweet guy....so so caring....and more romantic than my boyfriend...he is evry girls dream..treats me like a queen and all.. not like my bf doesnt but not as much as my friend....my boyfriend is in the country with me at the moment and my best friend is bak in school in the US and i miss him so so bad...i wana talk to him all the time....so am guess that maybe i care about him more...am just so confused...cos this was how i used to feel for my boyfriend and now am feeling this for someone else....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!...but thanks alot mandy!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): who do u care about more? if uve been wit ur bf for 7 years and just met this guy then picking the friend will mess it up and u will regret it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
Only you can answer this, And alot of soul searching will have to go into it, I have a male friend who once wanted a relationship with me, I love my friend but I was not inlove with him, It can be confussing when you love someone to understand the love and inlove bit. You said your b/f was long distance and so was your friend, its difficult to find your feelings if you havent seen someone for along time and Im guessing this so im sorry if im wrong.. If you have being spending time with your friend of late and not seen your b/f then as the attention has been on just you and your friend the feelings may have appeared stronger, If you had spent the time with your b/f maybe hunny you wouldnt need to ask yourself this question, I do hope that makes sense love. The bottom line here is dont be pressured into anything tell your friend he has to stop pressuring you as you cant think straight, and then hunny have a good think to yourself and try and find were your heart really belongs. I do hope this has helped a little TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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