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writes:Hi, I met a girl on Friday and we exchanged numbers (she suggested it). I decided against texting her over the weekend so I don't come across as too keen. This evening I decided to drop her a quick text message just to see how she was doing (I asked how she was and if she had a good weekend. Nothing more), but it's been about 3 hours now and I've had nothing back. I know that on a larger perspective that isn't a lot of time to allow for a response, but all the same I expected something.This has lead me here. I'm starting to think that I obviously don't understand how long a necessary period of time is before you start texting somebody you're interested in. Could somebody explain how long somebody should wait, and why?. Also, am I worrying too much over this? I know it isn't the end of the world and there are other girls out there, but I've been single for a while now, and it'd be nice to start dating somebody new since the opportunity is with me. Please help!
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (14 April 2009):
 Idk if she's playing games or not. She might have a very busy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnyone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I finally got a reply more than a day after I sent her the text, so that's something. I waited a little while before texting her back, but again, no word from her. Do you think she's playing games?
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reader, confused0223 +, writes (17 March 2009):
maybe she doesn't have texting...A guy tried to text me and I didn't have it so he thought I didn't like him but I did ALOT. So try to call her
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reader, InChains +, writes (16 March 2009):
Don't try and find rules, go at the pace you feel most comfortable with. That goes for any girl.
Also... try calling instead of texting. It makes you appear more confident.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): the time frame seems fine, i wouldn't worry about it. what's the worst that could happen?- she doesn't reply, you move on quickly, no harm done- sure beats wasting your time trying to figure it out.
On the other hand, there are a million reasons why people don't respond quickly to txts. try to forget about it and you might get a reply when you're not expecting it!!
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reader, Sambo16 +, writes (16 March 2009):
I know exactly what you're going through here. I've been through that situation before and i know it is a bit of an agonizing wait.
But there are many reasons why she hasn't replied
1. she may have no credit
2. her battery could have died on her (and she might be out so unable to put it on charge)
3. it could even be that she's not interested anymore (through no fault of your own of course)
There are many other reasons why though so it might be best to wait a little longer. If nothing try once more in a couple of days, and if you still don't get a reply then don't pursue it any more.
Try your best not to worry. After all, they say there's some one out there for everyone so never give up hope :-)
I hope this helped you.
Good luck.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (16 March 2009):
I don't really think there is a specific set of rules as to when you should text someone after meeting them.
Maybe she herself doesn't want to appear too eager as well and is waiting sometime.
Even if she doesn't text you back, it's like you said, there are plenty of women out there.
Hope this helps.
Take care.
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