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female
age
30-35,
*imisoph3
writes:i dont know wat to do i feel like this is my only solution..theres this guy i went on a date wit we're really diffrent he comes from a veryy rich family and i come from a middle class.his used to the glamm new cars,big houe,a maide kinda thing and i'm used to 2003 cars,normal one stor house,and no maide..i went on a date wit him he was cute but i thought we were moving to fast so i told him we should be friends first i think he thought i didnt like him (but i really did) soo he stopped talking to me...i feel like his playing games or something cuz he told his dad and mom that i'm the one and he knows it..his dad told me that the girls are chasing him but all he wants is me..and heres the other side..i tried calling him texting that boy and he never replys..its not that i cant sleep without thinking about himm i can i just regret saying "lets be friends and wat ever happens happens" cuz now i feel like i ruined everything..hows wrong me or him..and please tell me wats up wit that? is he trying to pretend his over me? or is he really over me? helllpp!!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 March 2009):
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Go to his house set him down and tell him you are sorry and that you cant sleep for thinking about him. This is very heady stuff for a guy and should snap him out of his funk. On the other hand it opens you up for a possible rejection. Love is like that. Then I think about your age and I want to advise you to let him go. Because the relationship is moving too fast and you are not comfortable with that. You have already givven him a soft let down and it would be uncomplicated and safe to walk away. Sure you will cry a few nights away, but in a few weeks you will get over him and be able to move on unscared. You will need some more guidance to help you decide if he is worth the risks. It is good that you are talking to his parents. Are you talking to yours?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (27 March 2009):
I'm a bit tossed up about what to advise here. On one hand you two had a mutual crush. All thee signs of serious infatuation. You came to your senses first and decided to cool it down a bit, because you want a real long term relationship. Good job, and good thinking, unfortunatly this is really hard to do. Part of the problem is that he is still crushing on you. He wants to be with you all the time and touch you and do all the things you two did. When you said 'lets be friends' to him that was th kiss of death. You put him in the friend zone. Which was not what you intended. It was age appropriate for you. Crushes can mellow into relationships but you will have to take into consideration his current needs. That is a dangerous minefield as you well know. You have already decided you don't want to go too far. And some how you will need to break down the communication barrier he has set up. Part of me wants to say go to his house set him down and tell him you are sorry and that you can't sleep
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