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age
36-40,
*ndy00
writes:Hi guys, I've not had a good day.Yesterday I went for an interview to apply for a 3rd year at university. My day started a 7am, from there I had to pick up all my friends who had an interview that day, take my girlfriend home, catch a boat in time for check in, get to the interview, have the interview and then take everyone home.It was a very long day and required me to focus an awful on what I was doing. After all, I was in charge of taking everyone to the interview and back, and go through with the interview itself. Now, because my mind was completely focused on my own day, I completely forgot that my girlfriend also had an important interview that same day, and had completely forgotten to wish her good luck or ask how it went.I feel terrible for it, and I've apologized and assured her that I want to make it up to her, but she's furious about it. She threw my apology back in my face, telling me that sorry isn't good enough. I can't believe this is happening to me.On top of that, she has accused me of being immature and childish about it, even though I have admitted and fully accepted that I made a mistake. I have insisted that even though I had a busy day it was excuse for forgetting about her interviewWhat am I suppose to make of this? February has been a big month. On valentines day I drew her a bath with 20 candles around the edge, one for every week we'd been together. A week later we spent a lovely day in the countryside together. It was one of the best days of my life. And now, 6 days later, ON OUR 5TH MONTH ANNIVERSARY, I think I'm single again!!!!How has this happened? Why has one memory lapse cost me a 5 month relationship? Please tell me what you think, because I am completely lost over it.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (8 March 2010):
 she is ridiculous, you need to stop being so whipped.
one one hand even though you had your own interview to worry about you were helping others get to theirs (something that wasn't necessary for you to do)
on the other hand it all about her- in her head she is so important.
seems like people get what they want out of you because you dont stand up for yourself. remember charity beggins at home.
if your getting abuse from her about a trivial thing leave her alone for a while and think about wether you deserve it (which clearly you dont). maybe without her in your face you'll see this tantrum for what it is (a childish power play)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): Wow, are you sure this is someone who's capable of being in a healthy relationship. Doesn't sound like it. If this is a pattern, you need to get out NOW- as it will get a lot worse over a few years. She may have done you a favor- I wish my ex-wife would have been this big of a bitch early on... well maybe not, I ended up with a wonderful wife...
Maybe she'll realize that she's gone off on you and it was 100% unwarranted. If she doesn't, it sounds like you're a great guy and been good to her. We all get busy, it's life... don't kick yourself, the end of relationships are painful, but there are lots of women that would likely love to have a great guy on their arm... go find them!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Not very understanding your girl is she?
I'mnot sure why it was your responsibility to get everybody else to their interviews, but you were, and it sounds like you had a hectic time.
Your apology should be sufficient for her. If she can't or won's accept it and sees the fact you forgot to wish her well as a good enough excuse to break up with you, I see this as a good enough excuse for you to thank your lucky stars you found out before you invested much more time or energy into a one sided relationship.
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