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*rkangelserena
writes:My boyfriend wants to have a threesome, and I am completely for the idea- it sounds like fun, and I've always been down for it. I love him, he loves me, and we both want this. The problem is who to have it with. He wants to get a friend of his (another girl, it would be girl girl guy), but I want to hire someone. I'm afraid if we get a girl from a bar she might have something, or he may fall for her, and it won't be as much fun. But if we get a professional, she can talk us through the process and bring us confidence (or at least me, lol). I'm just not sure about the process, or what the next step should be. We both care about each other, but it still makes me nervous thinking about him with some random girl. At least with a professional I'll know it's just work! Right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Think about it logically! Ask him to consider going girl, guy, guy or for a suprise hire a pro and do it there and then!!!!!!If he falls for her (the pro) don't worry because she'll say NO it's her job she's putting at risk. If you're not comfy with something sit down together and and say "I'm not happy that way could we consider this________"hope the best work xx
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 To cut a long story short suggest doing it with a guy as well see what he says if he's not up for that then it might be a problem later if you wanna experiment with that and be fair on the pleasure. Look at all aspects first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): Your idea about using an escort or other pro is very wise. If you both decided to have a threesome with another man, the same idea would apply, and for the same good reasons - a 3rd party with NO ideas about trying to intrude on your relationship, just be a good sexy partner for a few hours. Someone he/you knows is tempting due to the apparent comfort of knowing them, but more dangerous than a pro who will WANT to leave you two when it's all done. She'll have a life to get back to, and won't want to be more invoved in yours. Pros know how to compartmentalize the feelings generated in such sessions; they have to in order to do their jobs and still have a enjoyable regular life. Do any of your friends have this ability? If not, ...Be CERTAIN that the two of you have talked, talked, talked, and TALKED about AALLL possible outcomes of this, and AALLL possible worries/fears/uncertainties either of you have. Once you believe you've talked it all out, start talking again. You really can't talk about this too much, but you Can go too quickly. Fantasy is one thing, reality is different. Make sure BOTH of you can handle the transition from one to the other, and the afterwords. ..you both do have a common plan for how to reclaim each other afterwards, don't you?... ;-)
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