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writes:alright, i've been here before... asking about the safest way to broach the topic of a threesome with a couple i know. but i'm a punk, and while drinking tends to loosen many people's inhibitions, mine are fairly deep rooted, so it would take more liquor than i can stand to get me to the point where i'd even ask. so, i'm at the point now where i'm just thinking about getting some "space" for a while, maybe finding some other couples who i'm not close friends with, and seeing how it goes. i'm not even sure what the question is, but... thoughts? i want to tell them how i feel, but am worried that won't bode well for our long term friendship. what should i do?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 What do you feel? Your question was not clear enough. Do you have feelings for a couple you are friends with? Do you want just sex with them? Ore one of them? How close are you? And what sort of "break" do you mean, when you have no relationship with this couple?
In my experience, either they ask themselves if this is what they want, or conversation will naturally lead that way if they, and you, are open for these things.
Do you even know where they stand on the issue of threesomes? Speaking as someone who's had a threesome with a couple I am friends with, I know they brought it up. They were the ones who confided in me that they were into threesomes, or even including another couple for sexual play (meaning me and any boyfriend I had). You need to be close enough to the couple for them to feel comfortable talking to you about these intimate things, even if that alone doesn't mean they want to do that with you.
Then it depends, if they aren't attracted to you, or into threesomes in the first place, you can just forget about it.
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