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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:There's this girl who keeps ringing and texting my boyfriend. She rings him like 5 times a day no joke! But my boyfriend doesn't answer, she sent him a message the other day saying how they are meant to be friends and how friends don't ignore each other, he ignored that message too. We've been together a year and a half and this has been going on all throughout our relationship. I finally confronted her after a year and half and she honestly doesn't think she's doing anything wrong. She actually thinks I'm in the wrong ? She has a massive problem with me because her and my boyfriend did like each other in the past but that was it? They kissed once and that's all! So up till today she holdes a grudge on me cause I've been with him so long? She clearly likes him and she obviously wants to ruin our relationship.. I just don't know what else to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2016): Hey, there's a favourite saying round these parts:"She ain't texting herself"; ie. he might be ignoring the messages while you are there, but he's definitely replying to something, especially if it's been going on throughout your entire relationship. Stop picking on her, and direct your anger at your bf.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 July 2016):
 Why does he not just block her number? Probably because he is enjoying the attention. This girl is right in a way she has done nothing wrong to you, it is up to your boyfriend to speak up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2016): "I just don't know what else to do"
As in most cases, you are directing your anger towards the wrong person. SHE isn't the problem, HE is.
If he really wanted her to get lost then she wouldn't be contacting him, and if he had genuine consideration and respect for you then he'd have already told her to get lost.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 July 2016):
 "We" shouldn't do anything, this is on HIM. HE needs to tell her look I can't talk to you, hang with you because it's detrimental to my relationship, so I'm going to block you". THEN HE blocks her.
She KEEPS texting because HE keeps replying!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 July 2016):
 Ivyblue is correct.
It's up to HIM to control her. IF he does not block her then he's getting something from her attention even if it's just his ego being stroked.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (19 July 2016):
 It needs to come from him. Be polite but frank. Something like " Im too invested in my relationship and have no room or desire for making new friendships outside of that " wish her well and never respond again. Good luck
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