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anonymous
writes:Hi I'm a 30 year old female virgin never had a boyfriend or kissed anyone I feel like a freak and that I will never find someone. I'm shy and worry no guys will like me cos I'm not very out going.I'm considering just paying someone to have sex with me so I dont have to depress about it anymore. I give up on ever finding the one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): My first sexual experience was horrible. It was very awkward and painful. I was an emotional wreck and cried my eyes out after it was over and I really cared about the guy I had sex with. I couldn't imagine how I would of reacted if I would of lost it to a prostitute... I really don't think a prostitute is your answer. I use to be in your same position until one day I decided to spend more time focusing on getting me and my life together rather than focusing on the fact that I was still a virgin. I lost weight (which helped my self confidence), took more pride in my clothing and appearance, became more out going, and I just decided to enjoy my life and the people in it. Once I did this it was amazing how many guys wanted to talk to me and take me out on dates. My advice is for you to change the real issues in your life. What is really making you unhappy? Paying a stranger to sleep with you isn't going to fix your life or make you happy. If anything that will only make you feel worse! P.S. You also need to think about the health risk that comes with a prostitute...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): Dear female,
I am sorry to hear about you being so depressed and pessimistic.
Don't be. Things can change, but maybe you need some help.
Have you considered therapy to find out why you're so shy, and maybe do something against it?
You say you've given up on finding the one, but to me it sounds like due to some reasons in your life, you haven't even started to look for him. Why?
If you really must have sex now, just to find out, well, that's not so difficult. Sure you could pay someone, why not. I've got no moral issues with that. But honestly it's not so difficult to have sex with a guy.
I was a virgin until I was 27 (well, I've slept with girls before). When I decided to have sex with a guy, I decided to fake experience. I practised with a dildo, read informational books about sex and watched some porn.I kind of "studied" it in theory and then practised. It worked.
But I'd suggest that first, you really try to find friends, have a satisfying life in general, maybe go out more, learn how to flirt etc. And then find a nice guy. If he's really into you he'll feel flattered to be the first one to have sex with you and will understand your reasons.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 So what's your question?
Let me ask you a question, have you ever put yourself out there when it comes to guys? Sometimes, instead of waiting for a guy to come along we have to make the effort and look for a guy ourselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): It is ok to be virgin. i would not advise you to call some to fuck you.. it will create even bigger complications in your thoughts, and personality and inner-self.
i guess you can take some help in to create some friends and go for any match-making services for marriage.
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