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writes:im on a dating site and have been talking to a guy for a while but he keeps making lame excuses as and when to meet. he claimed he was coming bk from a sea side as his holiday was ending last saturday he picked the date but kept saying he was stuck in traffic it only takes 2 hrs to drive bk and thats in bad traffic as i have done that myself , but yet it took him 6 hours. yes ur probably thinking the same as me - he never left the seaside and enjoyed 1 last night since it was paid for (his parents were still there). ive noticed inconsistencies in a few things hes said so decided to 'play dectective'. i dont want to be judged at what i did because this is the only way i could think of to find things out . i said to meet friday or saturday 29th he told me hes at a wedding so said friday to meet, and he said which church the wedding was happening at ,yet my friend who lives in the city where this wedding is apparently taking place has told me there is no such church in his city. (hes lived there for 20yrs so he should know) so i decided to join this site as my friend (she is single and agreed to this) so i messaged him as my friend. i got to ask things fast and easy and he couldnt wait to meet so i said lets meet saturday , and he said yes (even tho hes at a 'wedding' right ?) so he plans to be a 2 places at once. the wedding is fake clearly.( this fake date will cancel and let him know she cant make it b4 the actual 'date' ) i know people are not committed and can be dodgy on dating sites i dont have high expectations and im very careful when it comes to making dates and going on them. so my question is do i just cut contact without saying anything , do i drop big hints that i know hes lied about so many things and show that liars get caught out , i know some people will say dont waste my time but he will do this to someone else and im hoping i will make him think twice b4 doing it to someone else. i dont want to be judged or spoken down at - if anyone has had similar experiences i like to hear about what they did . thankyou in advance
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (26 August 2015):
Just stop wasting your time already. Send him a quick message telling him what you think of him wasting your time then block him. I would be wondering if it is someone who knows you who is pretending to be this person because why do such a thing to a complete stranger? In any case move on.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 August 2015):
 I would send him a message telling him that you are going to block him as he seems nothing more than a sad catfish and you are done wasting time and effort on that childish crap. THEN you block his number/e-mail/etc. and move on.
Now you COULD just block him, but I think it would SERVE him well to know that it's REAL people out there he is playing games with, and that is not OK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2015): You don't bother. Just don't talk with them anymore and get on with dating other people.if you think they are a scammer or something could report them to the site but all you really know is that the made excuses and lied to avoid meeting YOU but would meet when you were someone else. Some people are just too nervous\don't really want to meet but won't tell you directly. I would say the guy just isn't interested in meeting you in person. So why waste anymore time on them? Next!
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