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writes: I started dating this girl a few months ago and it started out great we couldnt get enough of each other.Lots of affection, went out all the time and really enjoyed being togther. Then all of a sudden she says that it's going too fast for her, that we need to slow down. I did but it seemed like she just hit a ll and stopped completely. The affection and attention was and still is pretty much gone. She says she still cares for me and just needs time but it's killing me not being with her and I feel like I'm driving her away becuase my feelings are still strong. I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, bell247 +, writes (3 July 2006):
you need to give her the space that shes asking for. Its so easy to say "leave her and get on with your own life" but its not a viable option when you love someone and they havnt ended it completely, it dos,nt force you into accepting something is wrong in your relationship.in my opinion, when your other half wants more time away from you,its not a healthy sign.Cool off slightly, dont answer every text and phone call, give her time to miss you, as the song says, "you dont know what you got til its gone."
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reader, camille  +, writes (3 July 2006):
 There's nothing you can do just yet except give her that time. I can't advise the length of time, but if it gets too much for you, either write her a letter or talk to her gently saying that you'd like her to tell you what she wants. She may be scared of her feelings, or yours or have had a bad experince or fear it may go wrong. Try to be patient but obviously make your needs heard too, as there are 2 of you to consider and it's just as important for you to voice your feelings too..
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