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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We've been through a lot but we seem to have worked things out. The sex is amazing...we have a great time but I feel like he can't give me enough emotionally. He tells me he loves me, we've talked about the future, we laugh and have a good time...but I am a huge romantic who needs to feel loved frequently. When it comes down to the little things like taking me home (he doesn't drive but take the bus with me) and caress me and make me feel warm and cherished I feel like it's not enough.Maybe my biggest problem is that I feel those things are the most important (obviously making the man feel cherished as well)I feel like this isn't as important to him...not that he doesn't care..but that we are just two different people with different views on what love is.I'm sorry about the length and if what I'm saying isn't worded right. I'm just really confused.I had a man who loved me more than anything...he would make sure i get home safe and although we didn't have a great sexual connection he showed me everyday how important I am to him. I left him and for a while I was sure I made the right choice. I don't want my ex back... I just want my current boyfriend to show me more that he loves me and not just say it.For me taking me home once in a while and going out of his way (because I do it all the time for him without a complaint) is one of the things that really bothers me...maybe lay with me in bed and pay attention to me like he does AFTER he sleeps with me....I can't explain what my question is any better. I just wish I knew how to talk to him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2008):
 Most young men do not know the art of pleasing a woman and learn through trials and errors.
Men are not born to feel how a woman feels.
They are incapable of that and they make the fatal mistake of thinking women think like them.
Older men are more experience as they go through the mill.
You need to communicate to him your wants and you cannot
expect things from him or compare it to another man.
He is no mind reader.
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