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writes:I am a divorced man, live alone, and have my kids every other weekend. There is a woman who lives a few doors down in my same complex. She appeared to be friendly, and we spoke occasionally outside when we ran into each other. The other night at 10:00pm she knocked on my door, and I asked her in. She said she thought my daughter was adorable was just thinking that maybe we could go have a drink sometime. I said i had a girlfriend that I was in love with, and she responded with 'thats nice.' She went on to say that she just thought it would be nice to go trade horror stories about our ex spouses. We shared a couple stories and laughs, traded phone and email and said goodbye. One thing we laughed about was a ridculous picture of my ex which i emailed to her. She responded with "what were you thinking? LOL " I jokingly said back "what? You don't think we go together?" She wrote back and said "excuse my comment, I dont know your ex so i don't know if you go together. Just trying to be funny and making fun of the horrible picture I joked back..."oh, I thought maybe you thought i was better looking" She didn't respond so a day later I wrote to her and said " Did I say something to make you mad? If I offended you in any way I apologize." Didn't hear anything. The next morning I ran into her leaving for work......I said you didn't answer my email. I did say that I was probably out of line emailing when I was in a serious relationship and she said I didn't see a reason to reply, your full of yourself, and not everyone who talks to you wants a relationship with you. She gave me a dirty look and left. Later that morning I did send her an apology...just said I'm so sorry...I thought after our conversation that we were just joking around and I certainly didn't mean to be offensive in any way. Please accept my apology. She answered with a phone call saying she was going to have me arrested for stalking if I ever contacted her again. Am i crazy or is this a slight over-reaction? I will say that the other neighbor told me that when this women was living there with her husband that the police were called many times and she appeared to be a little off-balance.
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reader, viking +, writes (27 January 2007):
viking is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses.....I thought I was a respectful guy, and couldn't figure out the reaction. I just wanted to make sure I hadn't done something that I couldn't see.
I will take all of your advice!
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (27 January 2007):
 Yes, this seems like harmless misconception to me. :) You seem like a really nice guy, but I can understand how sensitive some people can be. The unfortunate thing about e-mail is that you can't make yourself truly sound sarcastic...She probably thinks you actually ARE full of yourself for this reason. It's her loss for not accepting your appology. In the mean time, enjoy your girlfriend, a girl who loves your for you. :)
Also, I'd avoid the lady you seem to have 'offended'. She isn't worth being thrown in the slammer. Especially if she'd throw you in for saying 'I'm sorry'. Lotsa love! -Carrie
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 January 2007):
 This sounds like something that has been blown up aout of all proprtion in her mind.
She asked you out and you knocked her back. But then because you where freindly I think she read something more into it than it was.
Probelm is where do you go from here. To be honest I would suggest you don't go anywhere. Don't contact her in any way, don't even make eye contact with her. If you do then she is gonna sue your ass for harrassment (like she threatened) to cover her embarrassment at rejection.
Unfortunately when things are written down you cannot hear tone of voice or always get meaning that may be 'insinuated'. You may have thought it was a 'joke' but she may have 'read' it differently...you know, taken it seriously.
I hope this pans out for you. I strongly suggest though having absolutely no further contact with this person, for oyur own safety.
Good luck.
xx
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