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writes:okay so there is this type of club thing that me and my girlfriend are going to this friday (tomorrow) and last time she went on her own (when we were both single) she made out with this random guy. i think that when we go this time she may do the same thing again and is texting loads of guys too. im not sure what to do as if i say anything it will make me the bad boyfriend saying that i want to make sure she doesnt meet anyone else or something like that, but the whole relationship has been like this, me worring that she is cheating or going to leave me and it makes me really depressed to be honest.any help would be greatly appressiated thank you :)
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reader, LonelyHeartsAdvice  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 Hey there, if you are in an exclusive relationship then she should know not to do this, and accuse her of things that you think she may do will only cause trouble between the two of you guys. I know that you are feeling insecure, but it is possibly for a girl to have a platonic friendship with a guy, in fact i have loads of guy friends, but that doesn't mean anything would ever happen with us! Just tell her you are feeling insecure and talk to her about it, but don't accuse her of anything whatever you do, it will do more harm then good! Hope everything works out for you!Little Miss Valentine xxx
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reader, hopelessromantic15  +, writes (26 May 2011):
you can't keep worrying about her cheating, that only makes things that much worse. a relationship needs trust more than anything else, you can't judge her on her past, if you love her then don't judge her on what she has done before, judge hr on how she is now, the person that you make her. people do whatever they want WHEN THEY'RE SINGLE i'm the same way, shit i'm single i'm gonna have funn(: but when i find someone that wants to date, i slow down and try to make something of it, i don't give up all the guys i'm talking to right away what if it doesn't work, then i'll be left with nothing. hope this helped(:
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reader, lysha +, writes (26 May 2011):
 right no offence but you obviously do not trust your girlfriend, and you need trust in a relationship!as you clearly stated she got of with someone when your were both single,!she was able to being single there was nothing stopping her, she was allowed...if you seem to think she will cheat on you and you are always worrying about it then their is no point being together im sorry to say, there is nothing wrong with texting other boys either for the simple fact i do it and ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and he has no problem he clearly understand iget on with my boy mates better, it seems like you need to get over this stage otherwise you yourself are going to ruin your relationship because she is doing nothing wrong, she is allowed to text boys and she got of with someone in that club when you were both single, now she is in a relationship she wouldnt, otherwise she wouldnt take you along with her would she?your making yourslef depressed over nothing, so just forget all these crazy thoughts and get on with your relationship, as this would make your girlfriend very upset if she knew/:
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): hey dude you got to talk to her about this because she's not being fair to you.You're being far too gracious as her boyfriend and you'll make her take advantage of your love for her.You cannot condone such behaviour,if not what's she going to do next?Cheat on you (making out w another guy is already sorta cheating), so you two need to talk things out and iron out your relationship proper.god bless and good luck(:
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