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writes:I am 28, being going out with a girl now for 6 years and been living together for 2. she is a year older and lately we've being discussing marriage and children. We have gone through some rough times as a result because I felt I was not ready. I have agreed now but I am still not convinced. I feel I am no longer attracted to her but I still think she is a great person. Last night I wasn't able to make love to her, the first time that has ever happened. She is so worried, I hate doing this to her, she is really one of the nicest people you could ever hope to meet.Your advice or opinion is most appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): OMG I’m in almost the same boat. I’ve been married for 6years and I’ve been mega scared on being a mom – so I’ve hold off. Work and buying a nice house, car etc.
Now I’m not attracted to my husband anymore and I don’t know if I want kids (or with him). He too is one of the best ppl you’lll ever meet, but I hate the pressure from everyone on having kids. Hey at least you’re not married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): If you're feeling like this now, do you really want to bring children into that situation? Marriage & having childen is a life time committment, & you said yourself that you're not ready for it. So don't do it. What I would suggest instead is to take some time off from eachother to see if being with her is what you really want. It will hurt her, but imagine how hurt you all will be if you get married, and she's 8 months pregnant & you realize you've made a huge mistake!! Think about your possible future children's welfare, don't just try to avoid hurting your girlfriend.
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