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writes: Dear Sir/Madam, I bring to your attention with regards to my problem of my girlfriend. We have a long distance love affair and met her only in YM. We are now one year relationship and continue our communication through chating. We really love each other even we did not yet meet personaly. We are planning to marry when I come home in the Philippines since I am working here in Jeddah, K.S.A. But last four months ago we had misunderstanding and ended a break up with pain. Due to her emotional depress she decided to went vacation in Palawan Resort with friends. Until such time she met with another man who was showing very nice and caring to her. As the day goes by she fall and decided to have sex with the guy. But when the guy trying to insert his penis only the head go inside and my girlfriend push him and the sex attempt is aborted. On the following day my girlfriend does not agreed anymore for another chance. After one week my Girl Friend told me the whole story to me and telling she is not deserving anymore to me. She ask forgiveness to me to go back our relationship. She told me that she is weak on that day due to the feeling of emotional depress with our break up and the sex attempt is aborted since she saw my face on her imagination and cry that she cant cheat me. I feel very bad with full of pain and almost a month I decided to foget her. But she is alway communicating me begging to love her again. Until such time I forgive and accept her again. But the problem until now when I remember the things he had done I feel pain inside my heart. Kindly give me an advice to heal my pain the problem. It is rigthful that I will accept her again and go back to our relationship inspite of what she done to me. Please enligthen my mind with your brighter opinion. I would very thankful and appreciate of any advice you will share to me. Best Regards, Fidel
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (17 August 2008):
 well in honesty i always think time with a relationship before marriage live together enjoy life and after a while if you feel the same get married, sometime on a computer we get along better but does not always mean in person we will.. now onto the problem..if you are working away when you are married have a fall out could it relapse ? ok she was depressed no excuse she has full control.. but she does feel bad for it so thats a good start.. you need to take a step out and think can you forgive her for what she has done? do you think you can trust her again? and finally do you love her the same if not more? if no to all the above then it seriously does not look good..hopefully she will see the error of her ways and be faithful without a doubt. although you mention break up so then that means you were no longer together so she was free to please.. give it some time see how you feel then make a desicion but for now give it time and think on building the relationship and see where it takes you.. good luck aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): What she did was wrong indeed but if you truly love her you'll go back and try too work things out. I can tell shes still madly inlove with you it was probably a fling that ment nothing but after what shes been through emotionaly try to be there for her even as a friend.
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