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*Lilly08
writes:I need some advice. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over two years, but I have been away at school while she is back home. We are only about 45 minutes away from each other and we try to see each other as much as possible, but I feel that it's been really tearing her apart that we don't see each other every day. We both love each other to death and we have so many interests, but lately she's been telling me that she doesn't know if she can handle another two years of this (I am a sophomore). I keep telling her that it's hard on me as well, and I truly feel that we can make it work because I can't see my life without her, but she is telling me that she needs some time to think things over. It's just shocking to me because I never expected this because we are so perfect for each other. I've also been starting to feel guilty because I feel this is my fault. I don't want to lose her, and I'm scared that taking a break will destory our relationship. How do you guys feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2007): I don't think this is your fault and honestly 45 minutes is nothing compared to other long distance relationships. My guy moves from state to state sometimes close to me and sometimes farther away but as long as there is love and trust it can work. You have to understand that it must be really hard on your girl to deal with you not being there and maybe a break would not be a bad idea. You never know what you have until they are no longer there. Maybe she needs to realize how important you really are to her and a break sometimes does this. If she truly loves you then during her time to think she will realize it and decide she wants to stay with you. When one person is having doubts in a relationship the best thing to do is let them sort things out on their own. If you keep them with you and don't let them go for a bit things will only get worse for them and they will leave regardless. So my advice is to give her some time. Good Luck! =)
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