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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend of seven years was deployed at least 3 times to the war in the last 4 years. He is divorced and has two grown up kids, I was never married and I don't have any kids. We live in two different countries, we kept in touch all the time through emails and we used to meet and spend a lot of weekends together whenever he is home, I was the one doing the travelling and it took me just an hour and half to go see him, which I didn't mind at all. He has a busy schedule and I didn't want to pressure him more by making him travel to meet with me. Beginning of Summer he returned back from war, he was happy to be back home, wanted to settle back and was pleased to be with his kids. We started talking on the phone and texting each other several times every day. We made plans to meet and spend few days together. After few weeks things changed completely, he was diagnosed with PTDS. He disappeared bit by bit and shut me out of his life. One night in August he called me late, said he's going back to war and he'll probably contact me. He sounded like a stranger to me and I couldn't understand what happend. That was the last time I heard from him. I was devastated and confused. I emailed him two weeks later asking how he is doing? if I'll ever see him or hear from him again? and if he has broken up with me or if he just need a break? BUT he didn't respond. I don't know what to do. I really love him and I still think about him every single day for the last months. DO I EMAIL HIM AGAIN? I'M WORRIED ABOUT HIM. Any advice is much appreciated.
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reader, lovemyman  +, writes (11 October 2008):
All I can say is that something horrible must of happen to him in the war. Probably right now, he is confused and unsure of everything in his life right now. He be trying to push you away for the sake of not hurting you, or putting this burden on you in his eyes. I say continue to email him. Let him know that if he needs you are there. Email him as long as you can, and maybe he will return those emails. For now, he needs to know that someone out there still cares for him even after now.
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