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writes: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year and a half and we both love each other and things are going great.Before we started going out, there was this guy (X) who she really liked, but things didn't work out and soon after we started dating. They would talk sometimes at school and once in a while he would call her on the phone. I tried to not let it bother me because I knew that they had been friends. It only started bothering me when I saw a note that her friend had written her, it said "...I know that you still have feelings for X but you don't want to hurt your boyfriend (me)." I asked her about it and she said that she had no feelings whatsoever for X and that she loved me. I trust her completely so I forgot about it.One day I received a call from X, he told me that he didn't appreciate me being a jerk to my girlfriend, I told him I had no idea what he was talking about and hung up on him. I asked my girlfriend if she had asked him to call me and she said no. I was really starting to dislike this guy. I expressed my dislike for him to my girlfriend and she assured me to forget about him.I soon found out that he liked her alot and that they had been talking on the phone together, I told her that I didn't like X at all and that I would appreciate it if she wouldnt talk to him. She seemed fine with that, and told me that she would avoid him from now on.One day at school I was going out to my car and I spotted my girlfriend and her best friend in her car with who else? That guy. She saw me and knew that I was upset about it, I told her that I just wanted her to be happy, so if she still liked him then go with him. But she told me that she wasn't attracted to him at all and she loved me.A year passed, I had pretty much forgotten about X, but one day I was on Myspace and saw that she had been writing to X, she had commented on some of his pictures saying that he was "hot, sexy, and yummy." He had also responded saying other suggestive things. I couldnt believe it, I thought that she told me she had no feelings for him.When I confronted her about this, she got very defensive about it and said it was her friend that probably wrote it, she promised me that she hadnt written it. But she soon confessed that she had written it while at a friends house after she had been drinking. I asked her why she had lied about it and she said she was afraid of me breaking up with her. I told her that relationships were built on trust and that if we were not truthful with each other then our relationship would not last. I forgave her and we made up. But I still have that pain inside that she isn't being completely honest about her feelings and that she is just telling me what I want to hear. What am I supposed to do? I feel like it is an endless cycle, I forgive her and she does it again. I just want her to be honest with me, but I don't know what to say to her or what to do. Im confused. I don't want to feel this pain anymore, what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): she is breaking you trust time after time, see tells you what you want to hear in the hope you'll shout up about it,they say the truth comes out when your drunk and by the sounds of thing she dose feel something for X, but he could have been her 1st love, or they my just be friend like she says, all i can realy say is fallow your heart and not your head on this 1, no one can tell you what to do,i would advise give her 1 more change and if she breaks your trust again end it as she will keep doing it as she can get asway with it.
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