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writes:Hi, well im a 21 year old girl and i believe that im having a real relationship issue. When i was 13 years old, i used to get in a relationship for only a week or two because i used to get bored immediately although i used to adore the guy.so i used to be a heart breaker, until when a guy dumped me at the age of 19 although i really liked him and i felt that he's the one because i was really attached to him, and after this, all the relations were heart breaking for me, they dumped me.So i decided to be single in order to know what i want and who i want, i've been single for like 2 years, and this is causing alot of depression and the feeling of unwanted, because 2 days ago there was a guy who wanted to see me and my parents talked to his parents, but all of a sudden he disappeared!i cant handle this feeling of being unwanted, and im starting to love wrong people or im having these illusions of "yeah he's saying i like u, so ofcourse he's into me".Some of u might say that im still young, but its really pissing me off,,Please help me think differently. Sorry if my language wasnt accurate but beacause English is my second language.Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, AskAverett  +, writes (21 January 2010):
Hi,I understand where you're coming from. I used to be the same way. I would seek relationships that only lasted for about two or so weeks because I never felt attached, I just thought I was having fun. Boys would call wanting to continue the relationship and I would just ignore them. I had a more serious relationship recently that lasted for a while and it taught me a lot. In your case, I would say several things:1) I don't think love should be sought or forced, as it only really happens when you least expect it.2) If you're depressed because you don't have someone to share your life with, that might be a bad sign. I believe you should be able to be content by and with yourself before you get involved with someone else. 3) You may have felt unwanted even before you realized it. I would have short relationships and end them abruptly because I wanted to make someone want me so I felt better about myself. Then I would get rid of them. It's almost like I just wanted to prove to myself that I was wanted.Hope this helped somewhat.Good luck!
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