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writes:hey, i have a boyfriend and we have been together for a month and a weekish. hes smitten with me, and ever since my first love that left my life is coming back gradually and im feeling for my first love because you do really feelings that never change and i still have a few things to him to be honest. but he hurt me alot and my boundry is going up and i cant feel as much for my boyfriend.any help please?thankyou Reply to this Question
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reader, heartbroken . x +, writes (11 December 2008):
heya
dont worrie
the same sort of thing happend to me
my first love , dumped me , and i was heart broken but i sorta had feelins for this new guy , he was sweet and every thing , i snoged him , but my first love pulled me away from him , i wish he neva did , coz now me and that guy , are not on good terms , my answer is
dont let your first love get in your way , even tho it might be hard but i dont want you ending up like me
hope it helps
heartbroken . x
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (10 December 2008):
 To put it Simple.. First love is NOT as complicated as people tend to make it.. It's because we hear stories that FIRST LOVE cannot be forgotten and stuff.. This is complete untrue.. Nobody remembers that first love/crush once you are with a partner you love..
Yeah, in cases where you ain't happy with your boy friend may tend to make you feel that first love is all blah blah blag..
Putting it straight, first love often happens when you're not in an age to understand love.. It's just attraction and desire to spend time together.. How many FIRST LOVE SUCCESS STORIES have you heard.? It's just that we think too much into it.
My advice to you is, go and slap your first love in the face for hurting you.. That'll make you feel better and help you concentrate on your present boy friend.. Cheers..! ! G'day
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reader, daydreamer124  +, writes (10 December 2008):
Hi:) So let me see if i can understand your problem becuase your question confused me a little to be quite honest. You have a new boyfriend, but your past love has apeared again, and now your becoming more catious with your boyfriend becuase you remembered how hurt you were b4. am i close?
well, i have a VERY similar problem. I fell in love with this guy but we ended a month ago. and i'm almost in a relationship with this wounderful guy. He even promised me all the things my old boyfriend didn't. but i still couldn't help but be cautious. right?? My x left me all alone. i was hurt and sad for a while. you don't want to get hurt AGAIN correct?
Maybe your not even doing it intentionaly (putting up the wall i mean), but you know that you can't help yourself. that's what's happening to me....But sweety, you shuoldn't worry about. you shouldn't think if he's going to hurt you or not. And you know what? being hurt is part of growing, and it's hard to avoid. But just know the more and longer you put up that wall, the more time your waisting being happy. This boy could make you happy, but he also might want to leave because you're not letting him reach you. why not take a chance, and let him in a little, there is more of a chance to be happy than to be hurt. and if it does end, hey, at least you had a great time before because you let him in.
so basically, yeah you hurt. but don't let that stop you from having fun. it's not wrong to be cautious, but don't be to the point where your missing out and waisting precious time. this new boy may not be a new love, but you could still have a great time.
Hope i helped a little ;)
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