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SarahRussell
writes:Having a temper is common in all relationships. We all have that point where we just want to snap, just want to break something, or tell them EXACTLY how we feel in the worst possible way. But is shouting and screaming really the wrong answer? Or is it just the best way to get things off our chest?There are good points and bad about it, but the result will always end bad. No matter how good it makes you feel that your screaming and shouting, it will always end up with you feeling miserable that you've hurt the other person. (unless of course, they act in the same way you do!)No matter how you want to look at it, it hurts to have someone shouting at you. I know there's probably been a time for all of us, when we have lost our grip with someone, for not understanding us, or generally acting like an idiot towards you. Imagine if you were the one's that were being shouted at, and no matter how much you asked them to stop, they would still carry on, out of frustration towards you?I think the only way to do this is calmness. If you do feel like you have frustration, take it out on something else, other than your partner. Maybe hit your pillows, scream out to the world, but not to your partner. And if its the other way round and they have a temper towards you, then ask them to quit or your leaving. Because everyone knows when to stop something, just sometimes they need someone else to remind them. Reply to this Article
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): Fights do not help the relationship although talking about everything does. Having a healthy relationship is all about talking and understanding the other person. Compromises. NightFairy
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): I agree. If you love someone, you should never shout at them.
I am very lucky with my fiance. If we ever row, or start too - we both go for a jog or walk or do a chore, to get our minds clear before calmly talking through how we feel about something.
I also never criticise him. I ignore the mistakes and praise the positives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): I read on a health website that having fights can help a relationship as long as you take into consideration what the other person is complaing about and try to work it out. Hope you work everything out and think of all the good reasons why you're with this person.
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