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writes:You know the song, Hot N Cold? I and my ex-boyfriend are just like the song. We constantly break up, make up, and then break up again!We always supposedly decide to stay as friends, but then we start kissing, hugging, and then going out again. He broke up with me again 2,3days ago saying that he "only likes me as a friend." I took it plainly and just said okay since I was too sick and tired of this constant fighting and making-up. After the breakup, I asked him "Are you sure? Cus' this time this is IT. there's no turning back anymore." And he said he is sure and he understands.The problem being is that I know that this really is it and we really broke up for sure, but I still miss him. I do not even think I still have feelings left for him and I still feel like he is going to come back to me again and us going out, maybe because we've been doing this breakup and makeup for so long.I need to move on seriously. Tell me how to forget about him now and move on with my life.
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reader, Trying4Me +, writes (15 February 2009):
I hope when this finds you..your spirits are better..i'm going through almost the same thing..it's addiction at it's best...break up to make up there's that part of you that knows this is not really it even though we say it's over but when the day comes and you know you can't cheat fate anymore...you have been defeated but not at all as the other answers have stated so well..you won't forget him and it won't be easy allow yourself the time you need to greive your loss..he was a part of your life but letting go is crucial to your well being..don't try to cheat your feelings and push to get him out of your system for this will only make it worst..in time you will be just fine i understand like everyone else what it is to lose someone not just relationships but in general..remember this though..life goes on no matter what and it does not wait for anyone...so you should not ever find yourself waiting to be happy life is so short...when you wake up be greatful for all of the things you have in your life that remain no matter how tough things get..there may be few things like that but the ones that do deserve all your effort..this will only make you stronger...my thoughts are with you.
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reader, HopeLoveFaith +, writes (15 February 2009):
Well, the first step is realizing that you only miss him because he's gone. When he come's back, you know that you'll break up all over again. You need to start asking yourself, is it really worth it? No. It's tough but my best guess would be for you to date other guys. This is going to take time to heal. I really wish I could tell you there is a way to forget about him. The only honest thing I can tell you is that it takes time. I know, it really stinks. Sooner or later, you'll get over him and have a new guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): agh im going through this too.
this guy doesnt know what the hell he wants and is confusing everything. he wants it all but has problems commiting.
and you shouldnt have to wait around on him to make up his mind.. go out and meet a new guy, and if he really wants you he will come back to you =)
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