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female
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30-35,
*hemagentskie
writes:Okay, I'll keep it simple. I've liked this guy for quite some time. And I don't want to. I've dated other guys, and tried to keep my distance. We work together, we disliked each other at first but the more we started joking and playing around, I fell for the guy. I'm too dependant on him. If I can't fix something or need help lifting something, I don't even have to ask. I just call his name and point. Well, I get a smart ass remark, but he does it either way seconds after. Somehow our small fights always turn into poking wars or playing fighting. That's where I start growing more feelings. Blah, blah, blah. I tend to ignore him so we don't have much communication now, but he always has to provoke me for not saying much, by teasing me. I used to tell him everything, but I saw that it wasn't helping in this situation. But he always has to know everything, and snoop into my phone conversations. Drives me nuts. Can I just confess to him that I like him and that its better if he avoids and ignores me the best he can so I can get over him or is that just weird and I shall keep to myself? And it doesn't help with the rest of department thinking were dating. Then again, he usually plays around with me in front of everyone else. Definitely wishing he did this with other co workers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): Hi!This sounds both childish and cute lol... it is usually unadvisable to date someone you work with simply because of office politics crap. Gossip sucks and I don't think you want that. To be honest, I'd only hang with this guy in a group outside work, so you avoid forming more feelings with him as you tend to really get into him when you're alone with him. I'd only join in on your typical happy hours or work functions and tell the guy up front that you appreciate his help but would like to draw boundaries given that you are in the workplace. If he makes a ''smart alec'' remark at that, then you're dealing with a tool and you need to avoid him completely. Best on this.
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