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male
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30-35,
*razyhead
writes:me and my girlfriend of almost 3 years recently ran into a problem... she was getting slightly bored of our relationship (understandable considering we've been dating since just before she turned 15)... but what bothers me is the guy she is going to be on break with showed up BEFORE all this started to happen (he gave her a pair of $150 sunglasses for christmas, which i my book is way too much for a single person to ever give someone who is taken unless you expect something)... leading me to wonder if she is really in need of experiencing other people (a perfectly understandable want, which i share) or if she just wants THIS guy... and if it is THIS guy, can i ever really trust her in the future? what happens the next time she is attracted to someone else? another break for her to get her jolly's? only to be returned to like a security blanket, only when needed? a life sentence to being the "inbetween guy"?we have laid out some rules about the break (no sex, for example) though we seem to share the feeling that we couldnt bring ourselves to do that with another person... i just worry that this sort of break really means "i like you.... but i wanna try him out... and if i dont like him more i'll come back" rather than my understanding of "i need to experience someone else, and better now than in ten years".... thoughts?
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reader, crazyhead +, writes (5 January 2009):
crazyhead is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually i would just like to say that we talked today and i am feeling much better.... thx much for the advice....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009): Debbie is right. Do not call her. I'd also like to add, take your time when calling her back or replying to her texts, if at all.
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reader, debbie2807 +, writes (5 January 2009):
i can tell you don't call her or text her or anything, she might go out with someone else but if she loves you she be back , but don't call her what ever, you are going to want to .give her time to think about you.she be wandering what you are doing.let het think.what do you have to loose.
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