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writes: Ok heres my situation and I need advice on what to do.I like this guy (lets call him M) in college. I got to know him around march because he was my 'friends'(lets call him Y) room-mate. There was this big ball/disco in the college bar and M and I ended up making out. I stayed at his place that night but nothing else happened just kissing and that. I was kind of like oh it was just a once off, whatever. His room-mate and my friends kinda slagged me off, but it was all in good humour. I kind of avoided M a bit and didnt visit X as often. The the following week I was at a nightclub with a few of my friends from home and we all came back to my place and they all passed out in my room. I went down to M (little bit drunk)looking for bread to eat and then kinda ended up jumping on him and we did a bit more than make out. It was then i started to like him, but i never told him properly.Then the week after that we went to a nightclub and i ended up staying at his again afterwards, no sex though again this time.Then a few days later i was out with a few of the lads and we got a bit high and i ended up going down to M's room again. This time nothing happened, but he looked after me and brought me to bed, he didnt stay over in my place.Then a little while after that, i did have sex with him, went to a nightclub, no intention of seeing him and he was there and we just ended up going back to my place and it happened.So we'd been together a good few times, mainly after a night out though. We ended up having sex. Then i was with him once again after that.During all this time Y kept on taking my phone and sending texts off my phone to M because he thought it was funny, but it just made me seem like i was really odd. It also meant that if i text M he wouldnt take it seriously because he would think it was Y taking the piss again.At the start M would facebook/text me saying hi and start a conversation but then that he stopped because Y would just take the laptop/phone off me. I flipped at Y after a while but the damage was done at that stage. all my other friends that i've known for years knew when to back off and actually help, but he didn't (i only knew him- Y about 3-4 months at that stage and thought he was grand but now, well, he annoys the hell out of me now).Also Y went and told him that i didnt want anything serious and didnt really care what happened.Now M dropped out of college two weeks before the end of term, but i really like him and would like to see something happen but i dont know what to do, can anypne give me any advice?? I sent him a a hi message on facebook chat twice in the past two weeks and i talked to him for a while but then after a while he didnt reply but he was still online.Should i leave it and just move on or make an attempt? And if so what should i say?? I have so little relationship experience with lads, even though most of my friends are lads.Its eating away at me since i finished college for the summer. Oh and i saw him once before the end of term when he came up to go out for the end of exams party and i was talking away to him, but then i went and got plastered and ended up passing out. First time it happened to me all year, and it has to be the night when i could have said something because i had gradually realised i had to stop being a wimp and just come out to him properly when sober that i liked him but now i think I've just blown all my chances and if I do anything I'll just look desperate and clingy. Can anyone help?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Yes that does make it a bit tricky. Splurge some money on a phone call to him and reestablish communication that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Thats really good advice, thanks.
The only problem is that M lives about two hours away from me now so its not like when we were in college and i could just pop up and down to his dorm!
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (14 June 2010):
Man Y is a wank!!! This is what I would do. Go round to M's house and tell him what Y did then tell him you really like him and would like to get to know him better and would he be interested in a relationship. Ditch Y out of your life he's not a good friend!
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