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writes:Hi, I have really messed things up with my partner Sharon of 3.5 years. I moved out of her house at her request just before xmas 2007 because of my anger outbursts (not physical) and tantrums. She has never gone out of her way to annoy me, upset me or push the right buttons to make me like this so I don't understand why I am like I am. We have had a turbulent time with jobs in the time we have been together, her house is in need of work, her son who is 22 finished University back in May 2007 and is now living at home permanently (2's company 3's a crowd) and whilst he isn't a bad lad I found it hard dealing with him as I'd had her to myself for the best part of 3 years. On top of this I am diabetic and she is on hormone replacement therapy after a hysterectomy some 7-8 years ago and has mood swings but doesn't see it, gets tired very easily and has problems with her hair falling out, itchy dry skin and pain in her legs and feet. I have suggested recently that she see the doctor and get a review on her HRT medication. She is on Premarin which I have researched and has mixed reviews from it's users. Anyway, back to the point, I moved out and she agreed to still see me which she has, things were fine for the first month, having dinner at each others places, she has stayed with me once in my new place and we made love for the first time in 3 months. She hasn't wanted to since, which distresses me a little, says she isn't ready for that closeness. We have just had a 2 week no contact break and it tore my heart out but I was determined to give her space which I have. She made contact recently inviting me round to hers for dinner which unfortunately I couldn't make as I'm off work sick. I'm going round in a day or two's time for dinner but she says she wants to take things very slowly and doesn't know about our future. I haven't lost her yet but I feel she is slipping away... should I just take time, it's early days yet, I'm scared I'll lose her if I rush her or pressure her too much. thanks in advance .
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darron66 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Babyduck,
Thankyou so much for a great reply. I have just read it 4 times and you are so right in what you say! You're not my partner Sharon are you ? !!
I am having dinner with Sharon tomorrow evening at her place and will see about asking what she wants from the relationship. It's such an obvious question but one i havent asked ! Am i being selfish by not asking her that ? I guess i am frightened of what her reply will be but then again if she didnt want me surely she would have finished the relationship. I dont think she is the type to string me along gently. I sincerely feel she wants me to sort myself out so that we can continue our life together.
Thankyou so much again, i will ask the question and get back to this site to let you know how i got on.
Best wishes to you too, x
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