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writes: I'm 15 and taking my GCSE exams. I work so hard all day at school revising, and all my coursework is at a high standard and has been handed in before the deadlines. We are told we should be revising at home too, which i try to do, but after a day at school i find i'm just so exhausted i don't have the energy, and even if i do revise afterschool i struggle to take any of the information in, because my brain is overworked. My mum doesn't seem to understand all this, and i putting me under an immense amount of pressure. I just can't cope with her. I try to do an hour or so of revision each night, but she doesn't seem to thik that's enough, even though my report cards estimate A*/A/B for all of my exams, and i'm doing well in all my subjects. I just get so frustrated with her, i honestly want to kill her. i have a very short temper, and she makes me so angry, it feels like she's deliberately winding me up. I hit her today, something i've never done before. In a fit of rage, completely out of control, she pushed me to my limits and i went to punch her in the face, but i just about managed to gain a little control at the last minute and ended up hitting her back instead. I hate feeling like this. I'm still shaking with rage now, i can't help it. I've tried so many times to explain to her that she's not helping and just making things harder but she doesn't want to listen. What can i do? please please help me xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): Your mum probably does appreciate how hard you work (you just don't realise it), I mean, you're not studying for her, you're studying for you. She wants you to do well. You should take breaks from your revision - you need breaks, use these breaks to spend quality time with your mum - so that way your brain takes more in, and effectively, you learn more in the long run. The key to revision is little and often. So calm down a little bit, don't overwork that brain, your clever and you don't need to work as hard as you are doing. You only get out of it what you put into it. Make that your motto.
Find a revision tecnique that suits you, reading through your revision guide and making notes in bullet points. Setting yourself questions and answering them, those you struggle with you should refresh on. Make spider diagrams and draw key diagrams to help you remember. Anything, eventually you'll find what allows you to learn best. Your brain only takes information in for up to 20 minutes, so study for minutes and then take a break for 5-10 minutes and do what you want. It's MUCH more effective than what your doing now.
As for your mum, you should talk to her, tell her how badly you want to do but you need time to yourself too. She'll understand, she's your mum after all!
Everyone has to go through exams at some point, and some get more stressed and worked up than others. Take it easy, you're going to do really well. If you keep doing as you're doing but TAKE BREAKS then you're going to do really well in life and do whatever you want to do, I have to commend you for that, it's not something many people do. Good luck, sweetheart, hope you do well! xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2006): OK OK OK...you seem to be doing alot of work, Im 16 and in most of the top classes in all my subjects, my report cards are mot to bad mostly b's (lets face it im not an a+ kid i never have been) My mum is exacatly like your's shes always goin on about my homework, study and what im going to do when i leave school.I get to the point where i have to leave the house an go for a walk or i'll go crazy.What i did is i set up a meeting with my mum and all my teachers to show and explain to her that i was doing a great amount of work, YOU SHOULD TRY THIS IT REALLY DOES WORK, mum is slowly getting off my back about school work and now knows that i am doing alot of study.After school you should only do ten minutes revision on each subject just reading over notes don't wear yourself out to much. I hope i could help at all...GOOD LUCK.
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