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writes: Hiya, this may sound silly to some people but I convinced myself I loved this girl for the last two years of my life and she never did anything for me, I was willing to do anything for her, but two weeks ago I met one of my close m8s friends and I really like her, shes shown me such a good time since, today we were flirty and close, holding hands.. you get the idea and it was great. I really like her and feel that Im over this other girl, that I want to get to know this new girl better and have a good time with the coming summer. I love being with her and I dont even know her that well.. however theres a problem. We're only 16 and we're smack bang in the middle of our exams. Im going to do okay A*-C I hope, but her parents expect her to get all A* and As so she needs to study. Should I tell her or not? I dont want her thinking I was just messing around but I dont want to ruin her exams by taking her mind off them and her parents coming down heavy on her come results day. Shes not allowed out much at all at the moment.. Theres a month to go til the end of the exams and Im not sure I can hold on that long. Help please? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): hmm i think u should tell her but make it very clear that you are not going to lose interest id she cant see you for a bit, that you'll give her as much time and space as she needs, and that your not gonna do anything to add to her presure. it might be nice for her to have that security that she doesnt have to try and see you even if she doesnt have time to, just out of fear of losing you. on the other hand tho please please dont say any of those things unless u mean them, and for gods sake make sure the lass u loved 4 the last 2 years is definately off the scene, and that ur not just trying to distract urself with this new girl. i had a year long relationship with a guy to try and get over an ex - lets just say it didnt work and it ended in tears...
be very clear n what you want and then tell her, but remember, NO PRESSURE!
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reader, Wally +, writes (29 May 2006):
Wally is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeya, thanks people for the advice, its what I thought, just hearing other people say it helped me realise its not so hard. And sorry for not making it clear, the other girl I liked for 2 years, we havent been going out for all that time. We dated for like a month at the start of the two years, I just never got over her til now.
Do you think I should say anything to her tho? Or just leave it all that time? Im willing to wait, but what if she thinks I was just messing around? I dont want to lose her respect or our chances later on..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): Just give yourself some time, whats a couple of weeks compared to a whole lifetime. Sit your exams, then enjoy your time together when the pressure is off. If its meant to be then it will happen. best of luck both.
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reader, monkey +, writes (29 May 2006):
I can sympathise with that one mate. I myself have gone through my GCSE's but my girlfriend is doing them at the moment and its causing all kinds of havoc. probably best to leave it til after. you dont want to start anything on bad grounds. Wait til the after school parties ect...when everyones relaxed and in a good mood. You'll be hurting the other girl by breaking up wit her-but its better than lying to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): Im in the same position lol, except that im the girl who needs to get all A's in her exams - theres this awfully nice guy that I know likes me, and i like him and id really really like it if we could get together, but realistically I know that I cant have both the guy and sufficient study time. From the point of view of "the girl" leave her to get on with her exams - either be prepared to wait for her, or stop messing with her head. Sorry if that sounds harsh but you will make her present great wheras good grades will help ensure a better future for her, and we all have to live in the future everyday for the rest of our lives, so it deseves a little respect.can you really not wait a month?? you waited it out for 2 years with the other girl!! think about where ur priorities really lie, and then think about hers...if they dont match up then this is the wrong time to try and force them to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): Im in the same position lol, except that im the girl who needs to get all A's in her exams - theres this awfully nice guy that I know likes me, and i like him and id really really like it if we could get together, but realistically i know that i cant have both the guy and sufficient study time. From the point of view of "the girl" leave her to get on with her exams - either be prepared to wait for her, or stop messing with her head. Sorry if that sounds harsh but you will make her present great wheras good grades will help ensure a better future for her, and we all have to live in the future everyday for the rest of our lives, so it deseves a little respect.can you really not wait a month?? you waited it out for 2 years with the other girl!! think about where ur priorities really lie, and then think about hers...if they dont match up then this is the wrong time to try and force them to...
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