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writes:Do not Understand whats behind the Las Vegas Trip My wife and I have been marrid 10 years and have always worked together as a team. With children we agreed to go down to 1 income so she could stay at home. . . now being on 1 income money is tight. At the start of this year my wife who likes to go out around once a week to get away from the kids, called me at work and asked if she could go to Las Vegas with her girlfriend, who she likes to go out with. I said and I quote "Sure, why not." Very Sarcastically, or at least I thought it was and I had to go so I hung up the phone, laughing saying to myself unbelieveable. . . thinking is she serious? She has always been good with money and with a recent trip to the hospital just prior to her asking I did not think anything of it. Well, I got home and we went out to dinner with another couple, the following night I had a meeting, and Friday afternoon I answered the phone with her girlfriend saying she ordered the tickets. Suffice it to say there was a argument AND I ADMIT WE WERE BOTH WRONG IN THE WAY WE HANDLED IT. She says she works hard, deserves it, and asked. . . I say if anyone were to ask me I would have said no my wife and I need time away and fincancially we just can't do it. A close friend gave me this advice. . .He blamed it on a communication problem and said the ticket is $200.00 she wants $400.00 more - take the loss of the ticket and gamble the $400.00 on a weekend away together. . .but yet she STILL wanted to go.IN ANY EVENT THREE WEEKS AGO WE CAME TO THE APPARENT CONCLUSION SHE COULD GO - I WAS NOT PLEASED BUT OH WELL. . . .SHE HAS GONE TO LAS VEGAS AND NY BEFORE WITH OUT ME - WE WILL LET THIS ONE SLIDE - - - - - WELL IN LIFE THINGS CHANGE - SEEING AS A WEEK AGO HER HOSPITAL BILL CAME IN TOTALING a little OVER $5,000.00! SHE TOLD ME MONDAY IN AN ARGUMENT LIFE DOES NOT CHANGE - THE TICKET IS BOOKED - I AM GOING. SHE WENT ON TO SAY WE HAD ISSUES BEFORE THIS AND SHE NEEDS TO GO TO "GET AWAY!"I don't know - but we are already struggling financially - now EMOTIONALLY - and have have acrued 5,000.00 on top of it all. - Why will she not see taking 400.00 out of the savings for this is smart? Why is she planting her feet in the ground and refusing to not go? Am I wrong for NOW wanting her to cancel for financial reasons - OR HAS THIS BECOME A TUG OF WAR ISSUE? To me life changes day by day and she is not putting me or her 2 children first for still wanting to go! in any event we are going to see a counselor about this looming issue next week and her trip is scheduled for May20th - I tried to present this as best as I can and even had my friend look it over. I am seeking an outside opinion, Help please. . . I HAVE NO PROBLEM GOING TO THE COUNSELOR - I already said I am taking our bills in with us! BUT - a I missing something? Walking into a trap? Or what? Counting on you Dear Cupid - you have helped me in the past. . .
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