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male
age
30-35,
*razybeast
writes:I can't stand it! I feel as if I can't be myself around my mum! Ever since I came out last summer We have had a strained relationship. Before she would ask me about girls and stuff and I know it is an adjustment but now I don't feel I can talk about myself and my problems to her like I used to be able to. We just don't connect anymore, at one point I was considering moving abroad with relatives and finish my education there but I couldnt leave her on her own, if I did go she would have gone off the rails and she doesn't realise how much of her life I'm a part of. I just can't stand this barrier between us anymore it's like speaking to her through a thick piece of glass. I just have no idea how to smash the glass and move on with our lives in a happier way.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 I guess maybe your news was just a shock to her and that she is unsure how to address it. My guess is she is just as frustrated as you as she probably doesnt know how to talk to you anymore.
The only thing you can do here is to sit down with her and be honest. Tell her how you feel and tell her you want that closeness back. Explain that even though you are gay you are still the same son she had before she knew and that you will always be that guy.
Its a break down of communication here. You just need to talk to her and be honest. Ask her how she feels about it and what she would like to say. If you both work hard enough you can get that closeness back. Goodluck.
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