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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have been with the same guy for a long time, almost 2 years. When we first got together, the sparks were amazing, but now there gone. It's more like a friendship then a relationship. In fact, we were friends before we were together, so we have been close for more then 4 years. Well, a new guy moved in down the street and there were instant sparks. A few days after meeting him I went to the gym, and he was there. We went rock climbing, and he spotted me, and helped me out. Sparks were flying the whole time. Now I don't know what to do. Dump my old bf for him? Or stay with my current bf and act as if nothing ever happened?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): At 13-15, how do "sparks" fly between two young teens? Did this new guy explicitly express an interest in you, or are you assuming that because he talked to you, you who are his neighbor, he likes you? If the guy just moved in, he's probably going to be reaching out for friends in the first place. You are conveniently located. I'm not sure that anyone on this site can tell you if he's into you without knowing how you and he interacted.
Furthermore, if you once had sparks with your boyfriend, and your relationship has mellowed into something that honestly sounds rock-solid, do you think that if you start a relationship with this new guy, your sparks will eventually die out, too? This kind of thing is a never-ended cycle, in my opinion.
In the end, it will be up to you if you want to risk losing your current, long-term boyfriend for this new guy, who you don't even really know yet. Weigh out the pros and cons. If you really feel that blandly about your current BF, and you could see your life without him (probably not even as "just friends"), by all means, give this new guy a go. But you might want to consider how well you know the new guy and how comfortable you are being around your current boyfriend.
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