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anonymous
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. Things are going well except that sometimes I get the impression he doesn't care about me. There have been a number of occasions where it would have been nice for him to either be more observant and helpful/asking questions to show concern. For example, recently I have had problems with my best friend which has got me down, and he hasn't asked anything about it. He claims that he loves me all the time, but showing concern to me is one of the most important actions which express love. I am sensitive to him and kinda expect the same back. Am I being unreasonable? I am planning to get more serious with him, but this sort of thing keeps occurring and annoys me, as it can feel like a one-way thing. Please help.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 women are venters... they like to talk about their problems even if they can't fix them
MEN are fixers.. they don't want to hear the problem if they don't have a solution.
have you told him you want him to ask about it and even if he does not have a solution you want to talk about it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): it's not that he doesn't care, its that guys and girls react completely differently when confronted with problems. You should try reading the book 'men are from mars women are from venus' it'll give you a much better view of his perspective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): Sometimes i feel the same about my bf, we have been together for 18 months but good friends before this. however i have also had a lot on my plate, i have a family member in hospital who is very ill, my work is stresful at the moment and home isnt much better. i used to get the same impression, my bf however brought it up one day saying he knows he doesnt always ask me about these things but he knows if i want to talk about it i will and i know he is always happy to listen but he said he would rather spend time with me focusing on the good things in life and support me by offering me a break from everything and cheering me up. i have decided that i actually prefer this from if he keeps asking me how things are. this may be the same in your case.
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