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female
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30-35,
*ofialoren
writes:We've been in a relationship for a bit now. I chased him around a bit and he's very shy but after a couple of months of being really good friends we started going out and he's madly in love with me (like I am with him)Now that he's equally in love with me if not more I get confused at time. I mean I love him and all but he's a bit older, I'm 19 and he's 24. I miss that excitement, that thrill of you know waiting for him to start liking me...sometimes.Sometimes when we talk on Skype (we will be apart for a couple of months- not long) I end up rolling my eyes at things he says sometimes.Sometimes I feel like I'm tired off him and immediately I think I can't live without him. I can't think of why I love him or why I'm with him. I never thought this would happen. Sometimes I get bursts of love when I want to call him and say how much I love him but then I get confused.Like I'm totally totally in love with him and I never want to break up, but at the same time sometimes I just don't feel as strongly as I used to, as if now that I'm secure and he loves me so much I am almost so afraid of hurting him that I feel trapped? I don't want to break up with him I just want this feeling to go away.I really want to stay in this relationship. I feel like I am breaking my own heart. I just want people to tell me they've felt this way and that it will go away.
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reader, hereforever  +, writes (27 August 2010):
I was having the exact same problems. I have an amazing boyfriend, but even now, at times I find myself not wanting to talk to him, or even feeling smothered. But then I think about what it would be like if we broke up, and I honestly cannot see myself without him. Sometimes the thrill of wondering "does he like me back?" is the most exciting part of the relationship, and when you end up actually getting what you want, it's almost boring. I would suggest to really think about how much you love this person, and even though things he says get on your nerves, if you love him, feel lucky to be with him! You aren't the only one who feels this way, and I wish you good luck : )
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