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Something changed, and now there's been no sex in a year

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Question - (3 May 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 3 May 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I know this is a common problem between many women, but still I'm helpless to solve it. Please someone help me.

My boyfriend and I met each other through the Internet on 2007 while I was living abroad. (so it's almost 2.5 years now that we're together). I had to stay there for awhile to take care of business and since he was so excited to meet me, he traveled to Europe for Christmas 2008. We had good times together and he returned after two months. But we were talking on the phone everyday after that. I came back home at the beginning of 2009, but everything seemed to be changed. There was something going on and I still don't know what. He was not interested in having sex and after some arguments he admitted that he suffers from some psychological problems. He said he is not a gay, though he is not interested in girls anymore!!!! And he still loves me!!!! So, I decided to be there for him until he gets better, but he didn't. It's more that a year that we had no sex. We see each other, we talk, we kiss and we hold hands but that's all.. nothing more. I feel sometimes I'm just a good friend for him.

The thing is that I've tried a lot to let it go, but I still love him. I can't forget about him... I dunno what to do... He doesn't go to work anymore and he seems to just care about his stupid music and his gym. He works out a lot and cares a lot about his body. I'm so tired of this relationship. He doesn't appreciate me. I do everything I can do for him, but seems he just don't care. I'm afraid he is gay, though I'm not sure and he doesn't go to see a therapist like he can't afford it.

Please someone help me... I'm so disappointed. I feel like I'm not attractive for any guy anymore. :(

P.S. He is three years older than me.

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A female reader, GraveyardFairy13 United States +, writes (3 May 2010):

hmm i think i can help

well try to stay with him, but as you do that. try to find someone else, and just be friends. and as you do this. get closer and closer to the new guy. this may take a while.

but while your trying to get closer to someone else, try to conect your partner with another woman, one that doesnt like secual thing either, and then just try your best to push him away

i know it may sound harsh, and heartbreaking,

but if you want a happy life you need to find someone who is more like you in most ways

if your curent partener doesnt want sex, then you wont be sexualy pleasured from him, and he will not do anything like this, and at some points it may feel like sexual activity between realation ships is a neccesary thing,

well....it kind of is. and no sex in a realationship truly isnt healthy

but i myself am a virgin, but i know what i am talking about. and just try what i have sujested and see if it works for you

all people are difrent

good luck! :D

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A female reader, GraveyardFairy13 United States +, writes (3 May 2010):

hmm i think i can help

well try to stay with him, but as you do that. try to find someone else, and just be friends. and as you do this. get closer and closer to the new guy. this may take a while.

but while your trying to get closer to someone else, try to conect your partner with another woman, one that doesnt like secual thing either, and then just try your best to push him away

i know it may sound harsh, and heartbreaking,

but if you want a happy life you need to find someone who is more like you in most ways

if your curent partener doesnt want sex, then you wont be sexualy pleasured from him, and he will not do anything like this, and at some points it may feel like sexual activity between realation ships is a neccesary thing,

well....it kind of is. and no sex in a realationship truly isnt healthy

but i myself am a virgin, but i know what i am talking about. and just try what i have sujested and see if it works for you

all people are difrent

good luck! :D

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