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*atman
writes:this might not be a relationship, sex, or love question, but i need some advice!I HATE MY MOTHER!!! Okay so i was talking to someone and an adult went and said we were talking about sex and then that person told my mom. Now my mom is all the time yelling at me! She keeps saying im a b*tch, a slut, a liar,and etc. She told me that she was about to "cut me off" from my boyfriend, (can she do that?) What can i do? I mean I cuss a lot and if I say one cuss word to her she will beat me!!! I don't talk personal stuff to her(just my boyfriend).I really don't know what to do. Please help!!
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reader, love-him  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 first ov all babe ur stil young, i no u wud hate ppl sayin tht but its tru.. babe ur mum is worried about you, she doesnt want you geting hurt, so shes trying to stop you and your boyfriend seeing each other. at the moment i dont think you have fully matured.. talk to your mum, make her realise you and your boyfriend arnt planning on having sex or anything of a sexual nature until you are both of an older age, this will help and calm her down. im 16 and at your age i knew everything about sex, but i didnt have a 2 1/2 year relationship. babe talk to ur mum. i realy hope i helped, mail me if u wana chat x x x
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reader, batman +, writes (23 May 2007):
batman is verified as being by the original poster of the question also i've been with him for 2 1/2 years going on 3 years. and i no ya'll r trying to help but i WON'T stop seeing my bf just cuz she said, i don't think she can do that-it's not right!!
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reader, batman +, writes (23 May 2007):
batman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmy bf is 12 i'm 11 and i can't talk about personal stuff to any adults cuz it makes me feel so weird i just can't stand it!
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (22 May 2007):
 well i cant believe that a mother could be that way with her own child. have to got anyone else in the family who you could talk to?
you are so young so if she wanted to ground you the i think she could. all you have got to think about is that if you were thinking of sleeping with your bf,you are too young sweety and your body just isnt ready for all of that just yet.
you should sit down with your mum and be grown up about it and just tell her that you wouldnt even think about sex and just because you have talked about it you are not going to jump in bed with him.
if you havnt got anymore family to talk to about the way your mum is being with you then speak to a teacher at school,they wont tell your mum and you will be able to get everything off your chest. you cant keep living like this flower ok.
i will be thinking of you,let me know how you get on. nicola.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (22 May 2007):
 The fact of the matter is until you reach 16 your mum is quite within her rights to cut you off from you boyfriend. While i can't condone the use of some of your Mothers terminology, considering your age, i think she has only got your best interests at heart. She dosen't want her daughter to get pregnant and ruin her life at such a young age. You are still so young, go out enjoy yourself, have fun and leave all that intimate stuff till way way later.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): I shud think she can cut u off from ur bf at tht age. I mean how old r u from wot i can c u myt still be at junior school i can't believe you would even consider sex at this age! I'm not trying to get on at you but be warned at your age n howver old your bf is no matter whether u agree to av sex or not he CAN and probably WOULD get done for not necessarly rape but having sex with someone under age. I don't blame her if she does actually i'm just so shocked at how old you r. How old is your bf btw?
Now if u were just talkin about sex in general and not actually having sex or anything like that then i can't really see her problem i'm 16 i knew about sex at your age so she shouldn't have a problem with that but if it is that then try to talk to her and make her see that you are growing up but remember don't grow up to quickly. Me personally would never have sex till i had been wiv the lad for a long time and i need he was the one. But please don't do it if you were considering it. I know people age 14/15 do and even that is wrong but theres a HUGE difference and don't forget your body hasn't developed properly yet at that age.But really you shouldn't even be talking about it at all Also can i ask how long you have known this boy less than 3 months would deffinately say you can't say its love you need time not just a quick galnc across the room. But i bet you and your bf are very sensible and aren't the type of people to mix with the wrong people and will have a successful life.
So i don't want you to think i'm getting on at you but please think again. I think your mum would have evry right to stop you seeing your bf if you did. There's nothing wrong with having a bf at your age but keep it to a minimum dnt grow up to quickly enjoy your life with your friends. There are two sides to this as i have sed. If ou were talking about HAVING sex then yes she will. But if you wre etalking about it in general then i think your mum is being abit over the top and you need to show her although you are growing up you r sensible.
Gd luck anyway hope you get bthis sorted out with your mum.
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