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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been chatting with a guy online and via web com and mobile almost everyday for a month. The guy got so much into me and he swore and made me believe him that we have future this and that. He wanted to come to see me to the UK as he lives in other Europe city but I volunteerd to go and meet him. We were both happy that we ar meeting and we couldnt wait. Last week end I went there and meet him. He told me I am much good looking even more than he thought etc... and I liked him and everthing. As soon as we went to his house we had quick kiss etc.. but that was it! I had to stay ther for 3 days as there was no where to go. But despite that he promised me everything before we meet we didnt talk about anything and I felt I was bothering him. He went throught heart broken relation before and as he told me... He also told me- he likes to take his time that we have time for sex onother time but what surprises me is- there wasnt any kissing, holding hand or anything similar from his end. Same time he tells me he will come to visit me next time... but we didnt talk anything in detail about us. I really liked him! But I am not sure what he wants. I came back to my city after 3 days he called me and texted me but nothing about us yet. I cannt stop thinking about him as I reallyliked him and I can't even focus on other things. I am really in love with him and I am sure he has noticed that. Yesterday I texed him saying- We didnt talk nothing about us I wonder what is in ur mind- but he hasnt replied to me yet. Now I am just confused and mad with him as I really liked him. Does it mean he didnt like me after all this communication and after all he was eager to meet me?? I wonder what changed his mind. Or is that the way he operates like he wanted to take things easy?? Did he had some conceren about me? I am sure i look attractive. And we both knew lot of information of each otehr before we meet face to face. So there was no much strange thing I guess apart seeing each other face to face and in reality! Please advise me? what I should and shouldnt do? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2012): I would not take on board what females tell you. I am male and I will tell you it as it is. If we like a certain female we will not waste any time whatsoever. Be grateful he never used you for sex because most men will have one off sex no matter how unattractive they find someone. You have escaped without injury. Let it go.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 Well the truth is probably not going to be pleasant… but I’m betting that the chemistry you feel online and that you feel in person is not there for him….
You sent him a text to ask about it and he has not responded. The ball is in his court. Sadly, I fear you need to brace for a big let down at this point…
I'm thinking he met you and just didn't feel the chemistry you are feeling.... it sadly happens all the time with online meetings...
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reader, G's_Girl  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 Hi Anonymous,You have had a month of regular contact, and so far only 1 visit. It is easy to get swept away with the excitement of a new relationship, so you need to slow down a little.He shared with you about his previous heartbreak, and that he likes to take his time getting to know someone. He also wants to wait a while before you are intimate. That is all very sensible, and you need to align with that. It is very clear you really like him, and he too expressed how happy he was to meet you, that you are even more good looking than he thought, and that next time he will visit you.Accept what he is telling you, and wait on him. Let him take the lead and guide you through this new journey for the both of you. Don't be anxious and second guess him, where you now say you are confused and mad at him. Give him time to feel comfortable with the pace, and I'm sure all will go well. Things definitely sound positive, so enjoy this phase of your relationship.Best Wishes
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