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*endy2012
writes:I need help. I have not been married for long. when dating my future husband, he was quite emotionally abusive, and i ended up cheating with another guy. i got pregnant, and only realised i was pregnant after i got married. I told hubby and things have been rough since. he has been heart broken. Now, I just caught him cheating too, and i suspect it could either be revenge cheating or wanting to have a child as he is desparate for a baby now. i dont know what to do now. save marriage? how? then what? divorce? help me, please?
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reader, Sassy78  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Personally I have found once the trust is broken by either partner it takes alot more effort to salvage the relationship..then it would if there was still trust..now u both have cheated..an by him doing same thing you did to him..wether it be revenge,spite,etc..shows
he may have said he forgave you but never worked on truly trying to forgive an still hasnt..cheating is never forgotten but can be forgiven..you both need to go to
marriage counng if you both want to make it work if not divorce maybe only option an with a mentally abusive man he needs to get separate help..id rather a punch in
the face then a mentally abusive man..which ive haf
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 August 2012):
 you are married to an abusive man.... if you have the physical, mental, emotional and financial ability to leave, I'd suggest leaving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2012): It all comes down the question:
Do you both want to make this work?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 I re-read the question and failed to find the word love in it. ergo the answer has to be, "Do you love him?" If yes, the answer is easy. if no the answer is easier
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