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writes:hey, im a girl who needs some answers asap!! (okay 3 guys named zach, sean, and justin all ex's) k justin who was my last bf broke up cuz he cheated on me but i still love him so im gettin over that but my other ex zach wants 2 go back out and says he loves me and we r friends now but zach makes me so mad all the time and i make him mad cuz i dont really wanna b with him but he thinks i do cuz i mite hav told him that i love him 2 but i ment it like friends so i said im just not over justin yet... i dont know how to tell him..then theres sean who is drop dead gorgeous and also like the only guy i trust sence he doesnt tell any secrets or try 2 pry into how i feel...but lately hes been flirtin and things like that then today was the last day of school so he asked me 2 skip 3rd block with him so i did and all we did is talk and hug but i could tell he wanted to do more but not sure how much more...we didnt but i think he wont make a bigger move cuz of the zach thing i mean they are friends but zach is like totaly hateful when it comes 2 sean goin with any girl and zach always steps up infront of him and sean steps down and waits his turn with her (seans lost alot of gfs that way) soo now what im wonderin is two things how do i tell zach i dont wanna b with him, at all...without hurtin him and screwing up our relationship? and how do i tell sean that i do wanna b with him....(when school stats back...i dont like the seeing eachother every other week at the movies thing at all)??
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 i agree with tremor, you have to let him down gently because you dont want to be with him and at the moment he still has hope so do it in a nice way and if he takes it wrong then its not your fault he need to be a man..and for the other guy i would maybe wait a little while before making a move due to zach he mite think you dont want him because of sean then i would ask him out, but your still young so kissing and hugging is more than enough in a relationship at your age.. thats my opinion aphexy xx good luck :)
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 Seems to me like the best thing you can do is let Zach down gently. Let him know that you care for him and that you like being friends with him, but that you aren't interested in a romantic relationship. Don't jerk him arund with hints or games - just tell him kindly and directly, and don't make excuses.
He may still feel hurt after you tell him this, but there is really not a lot you can do about that. It's up to him how he takes it - you've done what you can.
And again, with Sean, tell him directly. Men (at least, the ones I know) are no good at taking hints. It seems like you'll have to make the move - ask him if he wants to do something on the weekend, let him know that you are interested. Don't stuff about with it - just dive in and do it.
Good luck to you, I hope it turns out well.
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