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writes: So i've posted a couple days ago about the issue of my ex and my friend. Basically what it boiled down to was that he'd been talking with her, me and him decided to get back together, she got really mad, i got labled as the 'bad guy', i told him that i could because i didn't want to hurt her. So basically, i sided with my friend. BIG MISTAKE! So yeah, she's turned out to be a flippen backstabbing hypocrite. Yeah. And he didn't even have enough balls to tell me that he was going to persue a relationship with her. Seem a little odd? Yeah. I'm soo mad right now. She's doing the exact same thing to me that she was mad at me for doing. This is all so outrageously bogus! II found out that they were doing stuff online, neither of them even thought of telling me. I think that's why i'm so mad. If he'd had the balls to at least tell me that he was going to go with her, then i don't think i would be so mad because i would have expected it. well, i'd still be mad at her, but not at him. How can she hate me for the same thing she's doing? Some friend she turned out to be.Any comments or ideas on the subject would be great. anything at all. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow...thanks alot. and after thinking about it and reading wat you said, i completely agree. i know it's going to be hard but i'm willing to do it the right way so that i don't do more damage to myself. thank you alot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): You are angry. You've been hurt. Sometimes when things like this happen we get bitter and want revenge.
Don't let this erode your sense of self-confidence and down't allow angry feelings to eat away at your goodness. This friend is not a good friend.and your ex bf can have her. There are plenty of good guys out there, that would never dream about doing this to you. You just have to be smart, selective and use your head when choosing the right people for your life.
The best thing you can do is avoid them both and find the courage just to get on with your life and make it the happiest you can. This is very important and it takes a lot of strength and good character to do this. Make new friends and/or start associating with more trusting people.with other friends, Don't be angry and nasty by gossiping about these two people. You will be tempted to vent..don't so that. Your other friends willnot you to be their friend if they discover that you talk about people behind their backs. And another thing to try hard not to do. Avoid spending and wasting your emotions energies /time thinking of ways to make your former friend pay for what happened. Getting revenge may be fun to think about, but this behavior, will really only make you look sad and desperate. These people who hurt you are not worth the emotional workout anymore.
So hang out with other people you care about, even make new friends and appreciate the other wonderful aspects of your life. Spend more time with people you trust like your family. But if you can be strong and carry on, with graciousness and class....life will feel normal once again. It just takes time. Soon you will forget all about this person, or at least, be able to think of them without bitterness or sadness.
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