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anonymous
writes:I am so beyond confused and hoping somebody will point my thoughts in the right direction....I have always been bi-curious, but never actually thought bisexual! Reason being i've had 3 serious boyfriends, but never been tempted to have a girlfriend, although i have had sexual thoughts of girls!Badically, my best friend is stunning and i find myself having strong feelings for her. She is beautiful, truly the kind of girl who could have anybody she wants. She has a boyfriend and so do i- we always complain to each about them, and as friends we are very close. We spend alot of time together, and I find myself feeling jealous when she mentions her boyfriend.The thing is I cannot stop thinking about her, I think about her when me and my boyfriend get physical, I love being with her and I ache for her to just lean over and kiss me! Is this just a phase or do you think i'm bisexual?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2015): I have bi sexual friends and when they've been drunk they've touched my bottom or mentioned things about my body and I really don't like it.They are my friends and if I had a male friend who had feelings for me and they wanted to sleep with me I wouldn't want to carry on the friendship with them as I have a boyfriend.If you were asking this question and you were saying you really wanted to sleep with your male friend and you were both attached then it wouldn't sound very good either.Yes you are bi sexual as you are very strongly attracted to a woman. I don't think that's a phase but be fair on your boyfriend, you probably wouldn't like him hanging out with a person he really wanted to sleep with. Imagine if you knew that he was thinking about somebody else when he was having sex with you.This is about giving all of your love and attention to one person, it doesn't matter what sex they are.
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (25 November 2015):
To answer your question, yes, you are bi-sexual. You admit to being bi-curious and having sexual thoughts about girls. This is not the first woman you've had thoughts about. You even fantasize about her when you are with your boyfriend.
You don't mention any thoughts about actually having sex with your girlfriend. And you don't mention whether she has given any signs of being similarly interested in you. If you do have the opportunity to do so, I'd dump your boyfriend (he obviously isn't that important to you) and get together with her. You should figure out your sexuality before you actually do commit to a guy and regret it. She won't get you pregnant and you can go your separate ways if it doesn't work out. You are young. Have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2015): You have a boyfriend. So get the idea of her out of your head right now.
Add to that: Sex is the quickest way to ruin a perfectly good friendship.
Quit being a child and either break up with your boyfriend or remain loyal to him. You do no one a favour with your current train of thought. Not your boyfriend, not her boyfriend, not her and especially not yourself.
Sorry. Truth tends to be harsh.
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