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writes:I am 29 years old. When I was in eight grade I became obsessed with a male teacher. I developed a close relationship with him, and one semester after I started university, we slept together. We dated for approximately two and a half years and the relationship was dominated by a lot of deception on my part. We lived in a small town and while what we were doing was not illegal it was not 'appropriate' for a teacher and a former, very recent student to be sleeping together so I lied to a lot of people (mostly my parents) about what I was doing, and who I was doing it with, and nature of our relationship in particular. Anyhow, here I am 10 years later and I really struggle to set boundaries in all my personal relationships. Albeit, I have gotten better, but I have slept with most of my friends, lots of co-workers and even a co-workers much younger brother. I am bi-sexual and have a high libido and I don't know if I just slept with my teacher because of this or if sleeping with him and the boundaries I crossed all those years ago have had a lasting impact on my capacity to understand appropriate boundaries now. Any opinions?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (29 November 2010):
Do you have low self esteem or is it just a case you you get a subconscious thrill crossing boundaries to where you shouldn't go?
Sleeping with lots of your friends and co-workers in a small town may have given you a bit of a reputation. Have you thought of that? does it bother you?
How many relationships would you say you've had? Have all these been relationships or bits of fun?
The fact you're bisexual, in my opinion, is irrelevant
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): This sounds like you have a high libido, nothing to do with boundaries or your past relationship. You need to gain self control if you are starting to do things you regret it's time to start being strict with yourself. This is upto you and I don't think making excuses about it is healthy.
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