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writes: j, 26, and i, 21, have been dating for over a year (off and on). what has caused us issues are the following: working together, his chemical dependencies, the lying and possibly cheating, my jealousy issues and lack of self esteem/trust, the fact that he isn't very experienced with LTR type stuff, he's a "party boy" as well as a mommas boy, he's inconsiderate and just plain it's really too much to name, but i'm sure you get the idea.our most recent issues has been that, i created a fake profile to talk to him from and got a friend to start texting and calling pretending to be the girl, and he was obviously interested and had plans to meet her in the future and "possibly" have something out of it. i went to his house right after the phone call and he denied everything until i told him that i was there during the conversation. he was planning on proposing to me the next day, and he's been talking about kids. please, explain this man's mental process? he did apologize and claim that it would have never lead to anything (even though part of the conversation entailed having him get me thrown out of the bar he was going to be at for his birthday in order to meet her). i confronted him and he apologized and bought me a very nice ring the next day, but i don't think i could actually go through with marrying him after that... also, he's a lot older than me, i think he'd be willing to have children with anyone at this point? opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe claims that he wasn't really going to get me kicked out that "I know he would have left with me", but I know it's bs. Part of me thinks he's learned his lesson and without cheating, that maybe it wouldn't have been worth it to begin with through this experience, but another part of me thinks that as soon as he gets bored or feels "safe" again, that he will do the same thing, and even if it isn't cheating, that he'll leave me for the next best thing. I want to believe that isn't the truth with the effort he's put into being a good guy just recently, but it may just be wishful thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): He claims that he wasn't really going to get me kicked out that "I know he would have left with me", but I know it's bs. Part of me thinks he's learned his lesson and without cheating, that maybe it wouldn't have been worth it to begin with through this experience, but another part of me thinks that as soon as he gets bored or feels "safe" again, that he will do the same thing, and even if it isn't cheating, that he'll leave me for the next best thing. I want to believe that isn't the truth with the effort he's put into being a good guy just recently, but it may just be wishful thinking.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 Leave. He's a liar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Leave. It'll only get worse and what's even worse is plotting to get you chucked out on his birthday to meet her. Do you really want to be at hone pregnant why he's happily partying and seeing and meeting whoever? I'm not suprised your insecure he sounds like a right catch..
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