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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hey my boyf of nearly 3 yrs broke up with me over a year ago and i still miss him? he moved on pretty quickly and is now in another relationship. i did really love him (sometimes i still think i do?) but should i not be over him by now?? when will this end?
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reader, On Cloud9  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 I always compared splitting up to a form of grieving, although somehow it is more difficult at the begining (if that is possible) i suppose because a death is final and there is no real acknowledgement on how difficult it is to mend a broken heart,although we have all been there and you will forget about him more and more each day until finally you get to the end of a week before you think of him, then a month, then a year and so on It is perfectly normal to still be 'grieving' for the loss of your loved one and you will take whatever time you need to heal yourself from this (cliche but time really is a great healer).
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): No I think it is normal after a year to still have feelings for him.
I broke up with my ex about a year and a few months ago and it took me at least a year to get over him. We had dated for 2 and half years. I mean obviously I kept living my life you know?? But I would think about him everyday at some point and sometimes even think about how I still loved him and reminisce about how things could have been. (The first few months were AWFUL. I used to cry uncontrollably sometimes. It was very tough.)
To be honest I don't even know if I would normally even be over him just yet. The only reason I feel like I am is because I got involved with someone else shortly after we broke up (yes I still loved my ex even though I was in a new relationship). But now we just broke up and now I am "heartbroken" over my new loss. So that consumes most of my thoughts now.
But I do still think about my ex. But not the same way as I used to.
But it's normal after a year. You will get over him soon enough. Just hang in there. Especially as soon as you meet someone else.
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