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writes:So this might not be a typical relationship, however, more of a friendship thing. So me and two girls used to be very close friends - call them A and N so it's easier. Me and A fell out with N over silly arguments and ended up hating each other. A and N have not been friendly however some months after the argument N tried to build bridges with me because we work at the same place, I was happy to be friends again because we were good friends prior to the argument. However, A we haven't been in touch with for various reasons, 1) going off to university and 2) A had made other friends (other friends have now 'left her' and don't want to be friendly). Now me and N would love to be friends with A again but we don't know how to make the first move, should we maybe all meet up for coffee and go from there to try and rekindle what we once had? We need help, what shall we do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2017): I think you should stay within the friendship you've already reconnected. Concentrate on that. Hate is a strong word; and if you parted on bad-terms, just apologize should you incidentally cross paths someday. I don't think you need to go out of your way to bother her.
The other girl has moved away and moved on. She would probably not mind being friends on social media. Send her a friend request. If she doesn't accept, there's your answer.
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reader, Miss.Cupid  +, writes (16 July 2017):
 I do feel like sometimes you cant really be as close of a friends with someone as you used to, however, that doesn't mean you cant sit down and talk to them.
Coffee sounds like a good idea, I mean I'm sure you guys are mature enough to leave the silly arguments you've had in the past behind. I don't know if you will be close with A like you are with N now. But its worth a shot
Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 July 2017):
 What was the reason for all the drama? Is whatever that was something that can be dealt with and moved past?
You say you "hated" each other so ... why wanting to be friends? I can't imagine wanting to be friends again with someone I say I hate.
Some friends are not meant to be life long friends, others are.
I'd really think about WHAT motivates you to think about befriending her again, whether it's out of guilt or because you have seen the "errors of your ways"... If that makes sense.
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