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writes:I recently bumped into an old friend from school and college, who had been away at university for a while. She had come home for the Summer.She was the girl who took my virginity, and so when I met her again after a while, the inevitable happened. The sex was pleasant but it was not until afterwards that I found out she has a boyfriend. I have vowed not to have sex with her again having found this out but I am concerned that she may tell her boyfriend about this. She's my friend, and always will be, but should we keep it quiet or tell her partner?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 I still maintain this is her problem not hers. She's the one who did the dirty on her man not you. You can hold your head high in this situation cause you did nothing wrong. She's the dirty lying cheater here!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 You are assuming a lot of things. Her friends saw you both leaving.You assume that she will tell him eventually. You assume that she is not good at keeping things.Your assumptions could be wrong.
It would be better to sit tight and do nothing.You will have to take the risk than exposing it yourself.
All hell will break loose, if you tell him or if he found it out, the results would be the same.
If the truth surfaces one way or another, then there is nothing you can do about it. Prepare yourself and belt down for the storm .
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reader, Man-of-questions +, writes (22 May 2010):
Man-of-questions is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOf course I don't want her to get in trouble, but her boyfriend is likely to find out anyway. She's not exactly good at keeping things secret and her friend knows anyway as she saw us leave together. The truth will out, and I just don't want any of them to get hurt. Not even her fella.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (22 May 2010):
Why do you want to rat on your friend? Do you want her to get into trouble?
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reader, Moo's Mum +, writes (22 May 2010):
You are the innocent party here it's really up to her to confess her sins and not your worry. Don't make this your problem cause it's all on her.
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