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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I met someone while traveling through Australia last winter and we've kept in touch regularly through emails/MSN/text messaging. I tried to keep a pen-pal feel to the whole relationship, but lately I just really really miss him and I'm struggling to keep it from affecting my school work (I'm at uni). I'll see him for a weekend in the summer and those three days are all I can think about. I haven't told him yet how I feel (though I'm sure he knows, as our conversations have progressed and become much more personal) and we haven't talked about where to take it from here. Will it help to make this an official relationship or will that just worsen this depression? I'm certain we will not be able to continue at our current level of daily conversations/very personal emails as eventually one will start dating and I just cannot see a significant other approving of this relationship. I feel like crying at just the idea of not being able to talk to him and I cry every night at not being able to see him in person. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (1 March 2007):
 i think taking it further depends on both of you. check where the wind blows to during your conversations. read along the lines of your conversations if you are so afraid of being the first one to tell him how you feel i cant promise this will reveal his true feelings but atleast it will give you an idea on how to approach the way forward. if you want him to say something without leading him on then you will have to slowdown a bit because i think you have become emotionally attached to this guy. making it official is a risk u will have to take, when we get involved with our partners we dont know what the future holds so its about trusting your insticts and explore the unknown.
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