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writes:Calling all Australians please...My husband (2nd) has lost his job in recent months and has not been able to get another one. He is very qualified, but due to current situation in country, unable to get employment, even though many posts unfilled. He has the choice to start working from home, and that has kinda been what he has had to do. But things not going so well, and he is really depressed. I luckily have a good job, and is keeping the family going.But he has been looking for work further afield ( "I have nothing to lose"). Now he has found quite a good job offer near Perth. He wants to go. I am more sceptical. To relocate the children and for me to find a job equal to the one I have here...Problem is I got married (1st time)when on working holiday in UK, to abusive British guy and ended up staying there for 10 years. It was horrible. I didn't fit in very well either. Also ended up staying in single room with my son for 2 years in bad MAnchester area while waiting for child hearing to finish, in order to leave the country to come back here. Was so grateful to be back, and married nice guy here, had another child.And now this. After UK experience, dont want to go to other country again.Am I being difficult?My husband seems so excited at the prospect of moving. And keeps pointing out how great Oz is. And how great it would be to work there. But I wonder why they would recruit overseas if it really was that great to work there... Wont Australians themselves be filling the posts in I.T.?Is Australia really that great? Will we be ok?I am so worried about trying to settle in a foreign country again...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Hi
i understand what you say...but sometimes the BIGGEST RISK IS NOT TAKING THE RISK!!!!! i was told this along time ago...be positive as at least you would be more prepared mentally should things nt turn out as planned....nobody can make your choice for you....but I would go for a new life, a new adventure for the whole family...it's a new adventure and you may always be SAYING WHAT IF! IF YOU DONT GIVE IT A GO, SET A TRIAL DATE IN YOUR HEAD, KEEP DORS HALF OPEN HEAR HAVE A BACK UP PLAN IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL SECURE.....GO FOR IT! get web cams set up for your family and freinds and childrens freinds so you can all stay in touch, invite them over for holidays and vice versa,not every ne gets OPPORTUNITY!!!! and they are stuck, i always take opportunity it opens new doors,,,and as you say your husbands starting to sink ....swim while there is a shore to swim too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): I can't tell you anything about Australia - the last time I was there was 1969! However, I'm not surprised you disliked the UK if you were in Manchester. I wouldn't want to live within 100 miles of the place myself! I couldn't afford all the extra security systems I'd need, let alone the razor wire around the house.
I've been to SA too, also in 1968/9 and I told myself then that if ever I emigrated it would be either to SA or Australia.
I have a friend who recently relocated to Australia in an IT job, and he's doing extremely well for himself, flash car, big house, boat, ideal place to bring up the kids etc.
I reckon if your bloke is a switched-on kiddie you'll be ok. But I'm no expert!
Best of luck anyway.
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